Wait until your son is a teenager with (and there’s a real reason they call them) RAGING hormones before you decide to deny all alternatives.

You may wish he makes certain choices, but if he doesn’t where is he? Either you get the giant economy boxes of condoms from CostCo or you’re raising your grandchildren. Or taking him to the doctor for test results and treatment. Or you lock him in his room until he’s 20.

Debbie

Naomi Wolf has these insights on sexuality from her essay “The Porn Myth”:

***I will never forget a visit I made to Ilana, an old friend who had become an Orthodox Jew in Jerusalem. When I saw her again, she had abandoned her jeans and T-shirts for long skirts and a head scarf. I could not get over it. Ilana has waist-length, wild and curly golden-blonde hair. “Can’t I even see your hair?” I asked, trying to find my old friend in there. “No,” she demurred quietly. “Only my husband,” she said with a calm sexual confidence, “ever gets to see my hair.”

When she showed me her little house in a settlement on a hill, and I saw the bedroom, draped in Middle Eastern embroideries, that she shares only with her husband—the kids are not allowed—the sexual intensity in the air was archaic, overwhelming. It was private. It was a feeling of erotic intensity deeper than any I have ever picked up between secular couples in the liberated West. And I thought: Our husbands see naked women all day—in Times Square if not on the Net. Her husband never even sees another woman’s hair. She must feel, I thought, so hot.***

It makes me want to bring trucks and give them away in front of high schools on the day they are taught about abstinence only.

Such a fantastic idea, if only we could have a massive ad campaign about those condoms, the abstinence word would loose all its meaning.

How dare men be attracted to people who are attractive! Oh, those cruel bastards!
And, honey, it’s certain that what you say is not true. “All of the attractive women”: I’m guessing, what, 25%, given your implication that there are lots of less attractive women left high and dry? So… 25% of the women are totally all over 100% of the men? That, um… is obviously not true.
Also, your reasoning is specious. I mean, not to knock on fat people (I used to be fat until I did something about it, so it’s okay for me to be a bit of a dick here), but I see like these 300 pound women walking around Wal-Mart all the time with wedding rings and six spoiled kids.

Also, you contradict yourself: you say men want sex, sex, sex, but only with hot, hot, women. So… they have to wait until one of the 25% is available? And until then they just don’t want sex? Sounds to me like we’re not as sex-crazed as you think… See, you can’t have it both ways and still have any semblance of a reasonable argument.

(hehe… the verification words are “polished it”. I’m so immature)

Ahem, anyway…
Here’s the deal, Debs: your kid or grandkid or whatever your fleshloaf was (I’m stealing Matt’s idea about stealing that term) is either as good as dead or likely to become a father at 17.

So, you know, good job there. I’m sure your grandkid will be proud of you.