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By: Renee

Renee — Tue, 26 May 2009 01:25:24 +0000

I have slept with a lot of men, and I’ve found that there is great variability in how attracted I am to them, how skilled they are, and how we fit together physically.

In regards to the first, I’ve found that how attracted I am is completely unknowable until I hook up with them. Usually the guys I find really cute don’t turn me on at all, and many a so-so looking guy has been absolutely thrilling.

Secondly, there is huge variability in both skill and attentiveness. Skill can be developed, but some are naturally more adept than others. And if you don’t have skill, you can develop it with attentiveness, and some men just aren’t very attentive. Both of these are unknowable without sleeping with someone.

And the last is pretty much insurmountable. I have a very short vagina and so some penises are much too long for me. They have to be below 6.5 or else I can’t consistently enjoy sex with them. Additionally, the shape of the penis is important; I’ve never had successful sex with cone dick.

Now you might think this is something I could ask a guy before sleeping with him, but if I were to remain a virgin until marriage I would have NO IDEA about this particular aspect of my physiology. It’s different for everyone.

If I had waited for sex until marriage, it would be extremely unlikely that I’d enjoy sex.

By: Nicki

Nicki — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 04:36:19 +0000

First of all, I highly disagree with all of you who seem to believe that it is absolutely impossible to resist sex and if you do it’s because nobody wants to have sex with you.
It’s possible.
Second, I am not obsessed with people’s purity
BUT
Think about some of things people have said.
One person said that her husband seemed to belittle her because she knew less than he did about sex (so how would she know it could be better).
Well, if he hadn’t had so much sexual experience, they wouldn’t have that problem. Also, if a man has the nerve to be so awful to a woman, he doesn’t deserve to be with that woman who waited for the right man only to have that which could have been amazing taken away from her.
Do you know what that “thing” is? The possibility of a positive sexual experience the FIRST time.
Now, I will say this…
I was intending on saving myself for marriage. Ok, it didn’t work. My current boyfriend is the wonderful wonderful boy/man (I’m almost 19 and so is he… sure where we stand on the adult scale) in caring and attentive. He was also a virgin when we had sex for the first time. Yeah, the first time is awkward, but it was awkward for BOTH of us. We reveled in the awkwardness. Every time we have sex, he makes sure it is the best experience for ME. It is amazing for both of us.
And HEY that elusive female orgasm… not so elusive
Do you want to know why? He is willing to devote time and energy on me.
Now, I bet that could be possible without both of us having been virgins.
And yes people fall in love and have sex.
And YES not every time people have sex outside of marriage, is it a “hook-up”
but how OFTEN do you hear about it not seeming like a “hook-up” for the girl (or maybe the guy), but for the other partner it is

And all of this fun stuff (oh yes don’t get me wrong sex is AMAZING) comes with risks
risks of pregnancy
std’s
and heartbreak

ok so heartbreak can happen without sex

And while there is a very strong physical aspect to sex, there is an emotional aspect too.
As much as people want to deny it, it is NOT possible to have sex with absolutely NO emotional component.

So, I can see the validity of Hal’s argument.
I do not understand WHY this argument has come under such strong and INCREDIBLY negative scrutiny.
He has VALID points.

And to abstain until marriage (or even just until it is the right time) and to know the other person waited too…
how could that not be wonderful?
To know that the other person is giving himself to you
and for him to know that you are giving yourself to him

Is that not a WONDERFUL gift?
So, to all you nay-sayers… why do you hold such a negative view on this?

Now think… I said all that without saying PURITY.

By: abe

abe — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 21:51:26 +0000

amen. well said.

By: SubtleKnife

SubtleKnife — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 19:40:47 +0000

Brian, better late than never. As for a video on BDSM, I’m all for it! (I have a masters in history, does that count?)

By: Onymous

Onymous — Tue, 27 May 2008 04:28:08 +0000

Admitingly johnny come lately here. but as it wasn’t really addressed:

Rachel: “It is [Is it] possible to deny that maybe Hal has a point that premarital sex can be hurtful? Think of all the hurtful and devastating things that can happen to someone who has had sex before marriage (even if it unintentional, rape etc). With STDâ€™s, pregnancy, abortion, rape, and emotional and psychological distress that can occur from such instances- it is not pushing it to say that premarital sex may not be the best choice.”

All those hurtful things, yeah they can and do happen after marriage too.
You can be raped by a spouse, happens all the time.
pregnancy, abortion? hell yes you can have un desired unplanned socially, financially, educationally ruinous pregnancies even if your married, I don’t have the number on hand but the last planned parent hood stats said that something like 45% of abortion were from women who had already had a child.
emotional and psychological [and lets not forget physical] distress. again happens all the time, spousal abuse isn’t something new.

Also:
“I think what Hal means by â€œimpureâ€ is the whole idea of lost innocents- which of course not everyone agress with.”
while this HAS been mentioned before
1. ‘innocence’ is just as bad as ‘purity’
2. what is ‘innocence’ but ignorance