Well, maybe just to remind girls that just like there is no safe recepie for female pleasure, men too have preferences in regard to handjobs and blowjobs (speed, pressure, roughness, teeth, deepthroating, gagging, etcetera)
Beside the usual insecurities that men have regarding size. Many worry abut curvature even though it’s normal to have some degree of curvature. Also, a mention to the notion growers vs. show-ers. Some are larger while flaccid than others, but while erect, most are on average, of similar size. Another issue you may want to discuss is how men are taught and many believe that their penis is the only sexually responsive part of the body, there are plenty of other areas that should not be ignored besides the obvious testicles. There’s an entire body of to the male form that can be receptive to the proper attention. Lastly some discussion of circumcision, pros and cons, etc.
I second the suggestions on the circumcision (sensitivity, appearance, etc.) and curvature, and also suggest that you discuss the importance of hygiene, both for cut and un-cut penises (and for the vag too, of course).
Another topic of interest is the importance of lubrication. Nobody should ever think, out of naivete, that they can just go at the wang without lube of some sort.
Urethra pain after orgasm can sometimes happen, especially if you don’t urinate shortly afterwards to clean things out (leftover semen can clog it up). So don’t worry–you don’t (necessarily) have an STD.
Strategies for covering up a boner during class/discussions/nude beach visits could be helpful.
And I agree–please clear things up about circumcision. I discovered my circumcision scar had left a tiny hole–just enough for a ring to go through. Thanks for the free piercing job, doc!
BIGGGG important thing, I know circumcision has been lightly covered, but, actually, being a circumcised american, living in Europe, I’ve learned that an uncut penis responds a lot differently, like apparently some things I can do easily really hurt for them, etc. Actually, if an uncut guy could give some advice on the subject it would really be helpful, I’m still not great at it, my first boyfriend was cut, so I’m having to learn all over again, and some how, I seem to manage to hurt my italian partners in one fashion or the other, so yeah, this would really be helpful…. kisses
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Needless to say, adress the insecurity people have concerning penis size.
I have a 18 cm (7 inch) penis, and I was afraid mine was small, I didnt know it was the opposite untill I showed it to someone else.
Everybody is insecure, but it is not the size that matters. A big penis helps, but technique helps alot more. Unfortunatly for virgins (the ones that dont watch porn with a measuring tape for comparison) dont know whether their penis is small or big, and they sure as hell dont know how to use it
If you are going to adress the size issue, follow these guidelines;
Mention the average size, but subtract 10 to 20 percent.
(confidence is necesairy when you go and have sex, and it is probably more important than size)
Say that if the size scares a woman away, it really wasnt meant to be anyways.
We “in the business” (I’m a sex educator) tell our audiences (when discussing anatomy, of course) that 90% of penises are, on the average, 6-7 inches. That means 10% are not… 5% over and 5% under. Stop watching porn (just like your Porn episode reminds us.) and get a “grip” on reality. Porn obviously only represents approximately 5% of the male population!
Hmm… Not sure how much you might want to get into the circumcision thing, but I think there’s a lot of information on circumcision that needs to get out there.
I was cut when I was a baby, and - without any bitterness towards my parents - I really, really wish I hadn’t been. One of the themes I’d like to see in the video are ‘foreskins aren’t just okay - they’re cool’.
Let’s face it - they are. The foreskin is - and I can only base this on hearsay since I don’t personally have one - the main source of male sexual pleasure. I have the rest of the penis and that’s pretty awesome, so I can only imagine what I’m missing out on.
Although I *can* think of one thing that I’m missing out on. I’m personally unable to achieve orgasam from a blowjob. I found this out when I had my first girlfriend. I was kind of worried that there was something wrong with me, so I went to a family planning clinic to get checked out. My lack of a foreskin was the culprit - otherwise, I’m perfectly healthy sexually. Some guys who are cut are able to have an orgasm from a blowjob, but it’s not uncommon.
It should be noted that this turned out to be almost as much of a dissapointment to my girlfriend at the time as it was to me.
Also, when the foreskin is pulled back it has the function of thickening the shaft of the penis. And although length and width may not be *everything*, they certainly help.
Additionally, one of the original justifications for circumcision of boys was to make sex as unpleasant as possible without actually threatening the drive to reproduce. It’s a justification that’s fallen out of favor these days, but it used to be the main one.
Since then, the justifications for circumcision are that it will avoid infections (infections that can be avoided through proper sanitation and can be easily and cheaply treated with antibiotics if they do crop up), that it reduces the risk of HIV infection (preventable with condoms, and you can still catch HIV either way), it removes smegma (a naturally occurring lubricant of built up gunk inside the foreskin that sounds grosser than it actually is, and can easily be cleaned out with hand soap), and that it increases the aesthetic appeal of the adult penis - which is ridiculous. Adult penises aren’t meant to be pretty - they’re meant to shag the hell out of a deserving partner.
Essentially, circumcision has fallen into the realm of a taboo against men with foreskins for the sake of a taboo against men with foreskins. There’s no justification for limiting a man’s sexual pleasure in this way. None at all.
There’s a series by Penn and Teller on YouTube about circumcision that’s very much worth a watch.
Anyway, that’s me done. I’ll get down off my soap-box now.
Oh, and I should probably through out there that when I say my girfriend and I were dissapointed at my inability to acheive orgasam from oral sex, I’m not trying to suggest that sex is all about the male orgasam.
In fact, that could be another theme for the video. There should be more to the penis - and to male sexuality in general - than just cumming on things.
Warning: Big dick and frequent sucking, over several years, can lead to short term lock jaw, and long term jaw problems TMJ, ect.
Back Story:
My first serious boyfriend in highschool, and the first guy I ever sucked to orgasm, was…let’s just say above average. Because of the unfortunate fact that his father is an Eastern Orthodox Priest, and if I got pregnant excommunication would not be off the table.
(Yes, my first significant sexual discoveries were under the threat of powerful archbishops and the holy authorities)
Needless to say I sucked his dick, alot. He had a voracious appetite and assumed that I felt the same about his load after it shot down my throat. Literally went down on him every opportunity we got, which was at least once every two-three days. In college, a year after we broke up, I went to the orthodontist due to jaw pain so bad it led to migraines. Apparently I had developed TMJ.I still suck a great dick, just have to rub icy hot on my jaw afterwards.
anyway,
i agree with talking about the circumcision verses foreskin, as it kind of confused me for a while. National Geographic helped me to see what the foreskin was.
Also, i would say just talk about general appearances. Not only should you talk about penis size, but also testicle size.
and please don’t give some bullshit “it doesn’t matter” speech. because clearly, to some girls, it does matter. So just be honest about it, don’t try to save people’s feelings.
2) oh yeah, and i’ve never read this online, but it’s from experience. when you’re using your hand, start your first stroke from the top and go down. if you start from the bottom and go up, it pulls the skin and hurts.
3) point out that the ridge at the bottom of the head is where the action is, so if you’re touching / sucking etc and not stimulating that part, then it doesn’t feel good.
Well, I don’t have anything to say, but when I scrolled down to the bottom of the page, the re-captcha said “touched the” and I couldn’t resist sharing. XD
Che, that’s very enlightening about the lack of foreskin not causing you to reach orgasm during oral sex. I admit that I’m probably not the best giver of oral sex as I’ve only brought one boyfriend to orgasm via mouth. I have yet to bring my fiance to orgasm, and I wonder if it’s because he is circumcised. I’ve only dated one man that had his foreskin still attached. I don’t doubt that I have a lot of work to do regarding technique, but with your info provided, it may not all be me. Maybe something else you could talk about is overly long sex drives…like I should complain lol…but sometimes we get to where we’ve been having sex for almost 2 hours and it starts to hurt and my mind wanders. When I’ve reached several orgasms and I start to wonder what the heck is taking so long. We’ve gotten into arguments about that and he says it’s how he’s conditioned himself, and that I have to recondition myself…I dunno, compromise is clearly in order…If anyone has any feedback on this, or if you could work in this angle, that would be great (or maybe address this in a future episode). Thanks!
This guy friend of mine sent me a pic of his penis on AIM and I thought it was HUGE! how big is normal? and is a picture usually an accurate measuring device or was i steered wrong?
In response to Sir Spanks-a-lot, I’d like to see some clarification regarding the use of lube in masturbation. I’ve heard that you shouldn’t masturbate without some sort of lubrication, but personally, I masturbate pretty frequently and almost never use lube, and I’ve never had any problems with it.
That really sucks about you and your fiance. My guess would be that yes, it’s probably the fact that he’s circumcised. Once again - not every man who has been circumcised has this problem, but a significant number do.
At the risk of getting a bit too personal, there’s a few things I can suggest.
Firstly, if your boyfriend masturbates at all, he should stop. With my girlfriend at the time (currently single) I found that I could achieve orgasam from vaginal sex much more easily if I stopped masturbating. That’s not to say that masturbating doesn’t have it’s bonuses - it does. But in this particular case, it might be helpful if he could stop.
The other thing is that - presuming he can bring himself to orgasam from masturbation - involve his self-masturbation when the two of you are having sex. (I sound so clinical… This is so weird. I don’t know how you guys at MTSS do it.) I tried this approach with my girlfriend at the time, and once I’d achieved orgasam in this way with her it became easier to do so from vaginal sex.
Finally, the best piece of advice for you and your fiance is that you don’t need to condition yourself to match him… I’m not sure about the context of how the two of you came to that conclusion, but I’m actually inclined to get a bit angry at your fiance about how you told me he phrased it. I won’t because I might be reading you wrong. But if I’m right, it’s totally unfair on you for him to say that you need to condition yourself to last longer during sex in order to match his needs.
The biggest thing that would help is if the two of you could get used to the idea that sex doesn’t actually have to include the male orgasam for it to be rewarding. It’s actually one of the little perversities of modern sexuality that the male orgasam is seen as the be-all and end-all of sex. Sex is about the whole of both of your bodies, and about the whole of your relationship. The whole thing should be enjoyable. If you guys can shag away for an hour (two hours seems like stretching a good thing too far to me, but whatever you both enjoy is good for you) and have a really good time doing it, then that’s great. Once you take the pressure off, his orgasam - if and when it happens - stops being a goal and becomes an added bonus. When all the focus is just on the male orgasam, you can miss out on a lot of other good stuff that could be going on.
So when my girlfriend and I started to have sex in this way, it took the pressure off. We stopped having sex in hot pursuit of orgasam and started having sex for the purpose of exploring and pleasuring one another’s bodies… We experimented with each other’s bodies more, and in the process found things about eachother - and ourselves - that we enjoyed that we ordinarily wouldn’t have discovered. The little things that are unique to each person. And in time, some of those things managed to get me off on a fairly regular basis - maybe once every four sessions or so.
Hope that helps… Happy to answer more if you have more questions.
Actually, I have one other thing I’d like to reccomend, but I’d rather not put it up here.
HEY!!! NIKOL!!! GUY!!!
Is there some way you guys can help me get an email to Jenn without either of us publishing our email addresses? I know that emails are embedded into the comments somehow. Could I send an email to one of you and have you pass it on to Jenn for me, please?
Shaving the penis and/or balls is a difficult thing — but a necessary thing I believe. I used to be scared to place anything sharp near my testicles…but I find that it truly makes a world of difference and the ladies seem to appreciate it.
And shaving parts of you body other than your face does not necessarily make you gay.
Could you explain the Whole Puppetry of the Penis Craze?
How about Body Painting works with the Dong?
Why Don’t we see painted Dudes at Playboys MidSummers Party?
UnCircumsized dong’s are not GROSS and it’s ok to touch them… they all look the same when erect anyway…
Hygiene as always is KEY for any and all Genitalia…
oh, and lots of my teenage girl friends thought for some reason the Penis has two holes, one for urine and one for semen…there has to be a joke in there somewhere…
How about the fact that the key to great sex isn’t the size of the penis but how it is used?? Granted, it’s difficult to work with a small penis, but a large penis doesn’t equal great or even necessarily good sex. and @ che, I’ve never had a boyfriend that was circumcised have a problem reaching orgasm when I perform oral. Perhaps it’s not necessarily that you don’t have foreskin but that you just have fewer nerve endings in the head (which is where I’ve always heard was the most sensitive). Just my thought on that. : P
oh, and McChasty, I totally agree. If you boys want us to be smooth downstairs, I think you should definitely do the same! No girl wants to be hacking up a fur ball later! lol
Well, hygiene is a major issue when is comes to male genitalia.
Also, I find that raising the subject that men have it harder than women. We have to deal with “re-occurring” morning problems. Girls may use the excuse about PMS’ing but they never thought about men having to wake up, look down and have his dong harder than a rock. Every morning at a certain time we get the term “Morning Wood” and you should discuss why and how it happens.
Other than that, I feel girls do have the down side with genitalia. Until tomorrow…. Lol.
if this episode is going to be about the ‘dong’ why not make the next one about the ‘cooch’. if people need to know about circumcision, nerve endings, and whether or not to have a shaved manhood, i think people should also know about clits, their nerve endings, and whether or not to have a shaved womanhood. both topics are important to know, i think. Good luck. i really enjoy your show and the information you’re putting out there
things like length, girth, width, proper measuring techniques? sum guys get a ruler and stab it in as far as they can into the pubic area flesh to get a measurement while some use the underside??? yeah, i seen confused people XD
A few things that haven’t already been noted here:
1) Not only is it not a toy, but it’s a part of the body like all others. If you manhandle *snicker* it, it can get cuts and abrasions. They heal, but don’t get freaked out - it only means you’re squeezin’ the sausage with a little too much gusto.
2) The size and shape of the urethral opening can change over time. For lots of guys, it gets bigger through the puberty years. Don’t worry - your dong is not going to split like a hot dog bun.
3) Want to immediately feel a bit better about your size? Trim the hedges down there.
4) Sure, semen is messy. But don’t try to cover your urethra when you ejaculate. Retrograde ejaculation can cause serious problems over time. Remember, semen is biological, and as biological matter, it can both get and cause infections just like any fluid in your body. Also, it shares the emergency exit with another fluid, urine… and mixing those isn’t really the best idea.
ok, are we trying to tell girls and boys to have sex or not, too? I think we’re trying to tell them to wait! So, lets think about what we say about the penis. it’s different, they all look different, they are all different sizes, they produce the magic juice that makes babies and the pull-out method doesn’t work. lets just make sure it’s educational. one of the best classes i took in college, was sexuality through the life cycle and one class we had a slide show of penis, wow! and the next day vagina and another day porn. but, everyone is different…
and, i don’t know if we want to tell girls that all penis’s feel different. because, the small one’s…well, we all know you can barely feel them and the big one’s, they hurt, but some, they feel just right. and, i don’t know, but for girls, a first sexual experience is painful and no penis feels the same…ever.
@Dandilion Not knowing if you are a parent or not, I don’t know if you are trying to get kids to wait or move forward. While we take the stance that you should wait until you’re ready, educated and secure:
1.) I am not sure what “waiting” has to do with talking about penises.
2.) We are not an education site. So we probably won’t “make sure it’s educational”.
Great idea about no penis feeling the same, though.
Great ideas from all of you. I see some strong themes and we will do our best to use those in the writing on the episode.
Perhaps symptoms for STDs transferred from untested parents or sexual partners - it can be scary if you don’t know what’s going on with your penis, like if you’re getting a rash, and if you can’t figure out if it’s normal or not.
quite obviously… the main themes are the size, eventually thikness, circumsicion (or not) and mostly STDs… witherway, size doesn’t madder unless u are drastically over or under the norm (when having reached full age) of aproximately 15 cm for an erect penis (drastically meaning aprox. 10 cm), thickness… no clue there… but would be nice to know, Circumsicion -> would be nice to have a contrast between circumsized penises and non-circumsized ones (and not only the apearance but the pros and cons), there was a episode about STDs. What else? that would pretty much fit what I would have liked to have known when i started to become sexually active
Compare the size of the average penis to the size of the average vagina - that should help most guys with their insecurity.
Also, the point of sex is for you and your partner to achieve orgasm, not to impress anyone or look hot on film. Girls (or guys..) won’t care what your penis looks like if you know how to use it.
And if your partner is not quite comfortable with your penis even after you’ve done sexual things: just whip it out sometime while you’re watching a movie etc. and don’t do anything sexual. Just let it breathe.
When discussing intact/non-intact penises, you may also want to mention the frenulum–the bit of skin that attaches the foreskin to the underside of the glans. It is very sensitive but can also tear during sex. Another issue would be pearly penile papules, which are most common among non-circumcised males and begin appearing during adolescence. Wikipedia has an article about them as do a number of medical schools on-line course notes.
As for size, be sure to look at the recent studies available on PubMed. 6-7 is the old Kinsey average which was self-reported. The more recent studies–including one that involved over 3000 men–show 5.5 to be more realistic.
Thanks.
Oh, also, it is possible to tear the skin of the penis from too much masturbation without lubrication. Not to worry, it would only occur during “marathon” sessions.
Please discuss how a guy might instruct a girl to perform oral sex. My first boyfriend wasn’t able to articulate exactly what he wanted me to do and I had no idea how to go about it. (Luckily, I figured it out later.) For me, calling it a blow job was very confusing. You might want to point out that just blowing on it isn’t the usual technique.
Hey, definitely mention shaving. I haven’t given oral (yet ;D) but I have a big prob with hair and I definitely will not be able to give head with out making the guy feel incredibly bad…which would suck….no pun intended.
is there such thing as a problem where theres certain skin on the penis where it keeps growing?
and can someone really be 16 inches or bigger?
this is based on what someone else told me.
thanks
I just remembered, I had a friend who said she didn’t give head anymore because she tried it once and ended up throwing up on the guy. I’m fairly old and this hasn’t happened to me but if you think this may take place once in a while, you might want to talk about that. Imagine if it were the young man’s first time getting a blow job and the girl threw up on him! He could be scarred for life!
I like the bit about “the small ones are for anal”.
Here are some bits to fill the gaps:
- I read somewhere that circumcision is meant to prevent masturbation. That’s a horrible thought: To mutilate your child to destroy his sexual activity.
- I was really surprised to find out that I have lube glands. I have heard of some “small drop” before, but those glands never did much when I was masturbating. Only with a lot of stimulation over a longer time (like 30mins of petting maybe) I get wet. It’s more than a drop, enough to actually help with penetration.
- The next surprise was ejaculation range. Again, not much happens for me when masturbating, but, with a partner and slow sex, on a good day and with the right wind, anything in up to 60cm range can be hit. I find this a bit of a problem, as it’s actually quite hard to secure an entire room from sticky droplets.
- And yes, it is possible to hit your own eyes, and the one time it happened to me, it burned a bit. Just lie on your back and let her massage your penis slowly. If she does it long enough and has a good aim.. I’ve seen it coming. Does anyone with a boyfriend have “sperm meets eye” experiences?
- Men usually see the upper side of their penis, while their partners see the lower side of it quite often. I once took a photo of the “other” side and it looks totally different. Get a mirror and check it out.
- There is a penis day in japan: Hounen Matsuri. It’s very erect and public, with a lot of wooden accessories.
I hope the next episode is as great as the other ones, keep up the good stuff.
For the longest time, I thought my penis was a muscle. Really. That’s worth explaining for the following reason: be nice to the penis. It’s a super-thin membrane stretched around an expanding sack of *blood.* Think of a water balloon FILLED WITH BLOOD.
I think you should point out the proper may to give a handjob/blowjob. I have had some VERY bad experiences with that and even if only a handful (no pun intended) of women learned the way to give one without hurting the recipient, Mankind will be greatly appreciative. Also, i love you ladies. I only discovered you today, but i watched all of your episodes. Keep up the good work.
Whatwhatwhat, you recorded it? Whenever shall you post it then? I’m rather excited.
There are a lot of jokes about how men can never find a clitoris [your site includes a few], but there are plenty of women who when given a penis have no idea what to do with it. I’m one of the more experienced among my friends [I'm 16], and get asked for advice which seems… strange. Like, they really don’t know what to DO with it.
I suggest porn. Obviously, porn is unrealistic, but it will make penis’s less scary for you if you see them all the time.
I see there has been a lot of comments on size, circumcised vs. uncircumcised and tips for women to give a guy an orgasm, but nothing about other trials and tribulations. So I suggest you discuss the involuntary erection that happens to every single guy on the planet at the worst absolute possible, and most embarrassing, moments in time. Most embarrassing for me growing up was during school or dancing with another girl, in the locker room, at work, in church, etc., etc., etc., I also think this topic would also allow for some more humor in the show. I watch because it is not just educational, but it is hilarious.
Lime: It still surprizes me when I hear a girl say that penises are ’scary’.
I know that since I have one, I’m a bit biased. And I know that women probably think the same thing when men get all confused about what the hell we’re meant to be doing with their lady-parts (it doesn’t help that you’re all different).
But… It’s just a penis! If anything, we men should be the ones worried about you ladies doing something to hurt them. They’re bloody sensitive.
Damn, it’s already recorded? And I had some ideas, too….
–A lot of young guys get the mistaken notion that, when it comes to pleasing your partner, your penis is ALL you should be using. This is foolish, and akin to trying to paint a picture with your hands tied behind your back and holding the paintbrush with your mouth. Or taping the paintbrush to your penis.
–Lubrication is your friend, especially for handjobs; you’d be surprised at how long it can take you to get off when the hand doing the work isn’t yours. The first time you get chafing sores, you will be singing the praises of hand lotion. (And from the other side: if you’re frustrated at how long it takes your boyfriend to come by your hand, just put a dollop of hand lotion on your palm, make a fist to spread it out over your palm and fingers, and THEN go to work. You’ll both be amazed.)
–EVERY guy is insecure about penis size. Relax. Your penis is fine. In fact, being on the small side can actually work to your advantage, it could well make her MORE likely to want to have sex with you. Two words, guys: size hurts.
–The best way to CAUSE premature ejaculation is to WORRY about premature ejaculation. Don’t sweat it, and don’t tie yourself in knots apologizing; it happens. If your partner isn’t satisfied yet, just clean-up a bit and keep playing; your tongue and fingers aren’t limp, are they? And if you don’t give up in self-disgust, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how soon you’re ready for another go. (This is one of the great things about being young. After ten years or so, you’ll miss the hell out of it. Trust me.)
–I’ve noticed a few commenters talking about not sticking things in the guy’s urethra. Don’t worry about it. Unless the guy is REALLY into pain, doing it once will give you all the reason you need to not do it twice.
–Sex is messy. Sex involving penises tends to get REALLY messy. Guys, if you know or suspect you’re going to be fooling around later, stash a clean towel or two nearby. Your partner will appreciate it.
Oh, and McChasty? Two words, mate: beard trimmer. Buy one (doesn’t even have to be a good one), put it on its lowest setting, and go to it with no fear of cutting bits you REALLY don’t want cut. (The sideburn trimmer on most electric razors will also work, just be careful around any folded/wrinkly skin.) Unless you or your partner really have your heart(s) set on that close-shaved look/feel, it will give you pretty much everything you want.
I’d think this would work just fine for the ladies as well, but I can’t say for certain.
you should discuss the importance of the penis…if man didnt have a penis then what would the women do?! what good does the penis do for our world? think about it…if you get stranded on a deserted island, you can at least eat something…And how do piercings on the penis effect things?how does it feel to the women..AND DOES IT HURT WHEN INSIDE THE VAGINA?!
This post is about having your foreskin chopped. So when I say having it chopped, I mean the foreskin, not the entire penis.
I have a friend who had his foreskin chopped because he said it was too tight when it was retracted : I think you should suggest never having your foreskin chopped for anything, not even religion : you’ll have an easier time finding god with it…
I’m happy with my foreskin, since I had the same kind of tightness as my friend described, but it loosened it up over time with a bit of “stretching”. I understand that there may be really extreme cases of tightness that a doctor may suggest the chop for, but seriously, I would never give my foreskin for anything. Not even a million dollars. And I found mine REAL tight a few years back.
Sure, with the chop you stay cleaner, with your hood you can get all smelly and crappy and have all that smeg built up in it, but its like any other part of your body, if you don’t wash it, either way, its gonna smell like high hell if you leave it for a few days. Hell, I wouldn’t chop my head off because my breath stinks like shit after not brushing one morning.
However, my point is, I don’t see why you would want to derive yourself of the added pleasure that is inherited with an unchopped penis. Don’t get your penis chopped cause everyone else has.
You owe it to your children not to deprive them of foreskin when they are born as well, bare that in mind.
Notice how I used chopped because I cant spell circumsized… and my firefox doesn’t find the correct spelling for it!
I don’t think my last comment posted…so here we go again.
I doubt this will help with the making of the Dong episode, but let’s face it. Penises are kind of gross.
I have watched (and adore) your homosexuality episode, but as a gay female (with a HUGE crush on Britany) I would very ,much like to see an episode on Lesbians.
Your show is amazing, I love and support it whole heartedly!
<3 Katina Kay.
p.s. Gay marriage is almost legal in California, now. Does Britany like the beach?
I am a teen volunteer at planned parenthood and we getting several questions regarding size and foreskin vs. no foreskin. I think it would be cool to address how they all look different. It would be awsome if you guys talk about how pre-ejaculate does carry sperm. The basic anatomy of a penis would be good too(how is it possible for the sperm and urine to come out the same hole)..lala stuff like that.
I love the show. It is accurate and entertaining. It brings fun to talking about sex….sex is fun by it self…if not your doing it wrong.
Katina - The penis isn’t gross. It’s a natural part of a guy’s body. You just aren’t into them and that’s fine. Women bleed every month and I’m a woman and find that pretty gross. Your suggestion about a Lesbian episode is good, though. Despite bleeding every month, women are much more sexy than guys, in my opinion, and maybe some teens need to know it’s OK to feel like that.
One thing that should probably come up at some point is “semen etiquette”. Your oral sex episode covered the basics of “spit vs. swallow”, but there’s more to it than that. When and where it’s acceptable for the guy to make a mess is something that every couple should decide. Before it happens, preferably.
Polly — Actually, I think Katina is fundamentally right, she just doesn’t carry it far enough.
It’s not that penises are gross — sex is gross. When you were a little kid, did you ever see explicit pictures of people doing it? Not just bouncing butts, but really detailed stuff leaving nothing to the imagination about what goes where or what kinds of bodily fluids were involved? Which was your response?
A) “That’s incredibly appealing for reasons I simply cannot put my finger upon, and I feel compelled to seek out more.”
B) “Okay, gonna barf now.”
I think for most of us, it was choice B. Lord knows it was for me.
As we get older, I don’t think we get “wiser” so much as “bathed in hormones.” Quite against our will and better judgment, our bodies start saying (nay, screaming) “That’s not disgusting — that’s fun! You should go try it. Soon. And as many times as possible.”
So as a straight guy, I find myself in exactly the same boat as Katina: neither of us got re-wired at puberty to look at a dangling dong and say “Ooh, yeah. I gotta get me some of that!” So don’t sweat it, Katina. They are gross. Mine is — and I’ve never stopped being amazed by (or appreciative of) the women in my life who’ve found it dead sexy.
Just two caveats:
1) I’ve learned to accept my gross dangly male bits. I’m cool with them. We have a good working relationship. But all the other gross dangly male bits in the world can stay away, thanks. I have nothing against them and wish them and their owners all the happiness in the world … somewhere else.
2) Vaginas are, objectively speaking, every bit as gross as penises. I just don’t generally think about them that way any more ‘cuz … seriously. I gotta get me some of that.
well this post doesn’t really have to do with the topic perse…it’s moreof my suggestion for a topic for a different episode. It’s been posted a lot here about things such as shaving, and I think that could be a different episode entirely. Talking about pros vs. cons, shaving making you look bigger, making some jokes about “erotic shaving”, and commenting on methods (such as waxing) and the irritaion and itchyness that follows. So I thought it was a good topic, especially since it’s something new I’ve been trying lately.
Guys: if you want a girl to go down on you, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE pay attention to your genital hygiene. It would also be great if you could do a little lawn maintenance as well - having to stop every few minutes during oral sex to remove pubes from your mouth is NOT cool.
Oh and guys? Forget what you’ve seen in the pornos. Shoving a girl’s head all the way down onto your penis during oral sex, while pleasurable for you, will most likely result in her choking and/or vomiting on your genitals. Also not cool.
Rose: It kinda disturbs me that there are guys out there stupid enough to need that advice. It always seemed pretty obvious to me that if I was fortunate enough to have a woman around who was open to the possibility of giving me blowjobs on a semi-regular basis, then the more pleasant I could make the experience for her, the more blowjobs I could expect to get. This seems pretty self-evident, and I would have thought that the lure of getting more blowjobs would be motivation enough for any man.
The best advice i can give is this. Advice for girls, on the difference in male genitals. Just like all girls are different, so are guys. Some guys curve (one way or another) are different sizes, and shapes.
Most importantly are two things. Firstly, uncut. In america, i think its a bigger thing than most places but a lot of girls still get kinda ‘icked out’ by an uncut penis, for whatever reason - the way it ‘works’ the appearance, texture, somehow they are convinced because its not dry and hard that it has to be wet and icky. Its no worse than a vagina and serves the SAME purpose. Girls are moist and lubricated, so are uncut males, thats how nature designed them.
Secondly is penis SIZE. This isnt even the ‘oh no i have a small penis’ thing, its GROWTH. Before i met my wife, i was hesitant to get handjobs, or blowjobs from girls in general. While not small (six and something, go me) when flaccid i am no more, at most, than about an inch in size (and uncut at that), on a good day. When erect i pass six, but a lot of girls don’t understand this and if they see a flaccid - or semi–erect penis - they assume this will reflect the end size. It doesnt. I dreaded for YEARS the idea of girls seeing me when i wasnt erect for fear - and this turned out to be a true fear more than once - that girls would judge the flaccid size for what i would be while erect. Girls need to understand that there are Growers, and Showers. Showers are large all the time, but grow little when erect. Growers are much - often MUCH - smaller when flaccid, but grow far more.
Ultimately, despite the flaccid size, all men average out - life isnt porn after all - and thats important for girls to know.
Pretty much for guys, its the same as for girls - especially uncut - Girls genitals are not uniform in size, smell, taste, texture or shape, they are moist and lubricated and this is what causes a lot of the smell and texture. Guys - especially uncut guys - are the same, for almost exactly the same reasons.
Some girls are put off by uncut men, which is a shame because they are designed like that for a reason. The foreskin provides a seal and prevents the natural - and artifical if you need it - lubrication from drying up, it creates smoother, easier motion, the male isnt as desensitized - which in some cases is a lot - so there is less need for frantic, rough motions. SO unless you’re into that, you’re better off in almost every way with uncut.
Some doctors will tell you that uncut penis’ are more likely to pass on STDs, but at the same time some doctors disagree, so its a difficult subject. At the same time, if you are AT ALL worried about STDs you should be wearing a condom anyway.
Pete - I think a child who was just shown pictures of people having sex and didn’t know what it was would just want to know what the people were doing. I don’t think they’d form an opinion about it being gross unless they were influenced by an adult who had told them their genitals were ‘unclean,’ or something like that. At what age were you shown these explicit pictures? (I’m assuming it happened to you.) Sounds like the way it was presented to you may not have been beneficial.
As yet another homosexual female, haha, i agree completely with both Katina and Polly. However, i think it would be kinda a bit unfair to do just an episode on lesbians, and none on homosexual men. I did happen to love the gay episode, that was great; but yes, i do think there should be another one of some sorts, just to let kids know that it is okay to feel how they might be feeling.
When i realized I liked females, i was absolutely terrified. so yeah, i think it would be incredibly beneficial for kids to be able to see a show like this, and know that it’s not a horrible thing.
So somebody mentioned earlier that sometimes women vomit during or after oral sex.
i think that this is probably caused by the gag reflex, which most people have, involving the tonsils and the throat.
I know that i have gagged a few times while trying to deepthroat my boyfriend. Luckily, i controlled the vomiting instinct.
All in all, if you dont want to gag/throw up, dont try to deepthroat.
this also relates to the advice not to push the giving partner’s head down. this could trigger the gag reflex, and… its consequences. so just be gentle.
You could talk about a bigger penis isn’t always better.
Like guys can drive big cars, but it doesn’t mean they can control them. Sometimes your better off with a voltzwagon.
Do with that what you will, love the show.
Wish it happened more, but once a month is better than
“Oh, we lost interest”
Im attempting to spread your fanbase at Plainfield Central.
Growing up, I had no idea about circumcision. When I heard about it, I looked down and saw the scar and the brown ring around the shaft. The brown ring goes away when he grows, but it’s still weird. So, I was weirded out for a few years til I saw what an uncircumcised weenis looked like and what kind of upkeep you need to do on it as far as cleaning. I’m glad I was cut. He looks like an Olympic cyclist with a crew-cut and not a nerdy kid with a puffy jacket.
I think you should also discuss color (some penises are very colorful, and can easily scare any virgin) as well as semen taste–and how to cover it up. Hygiene is also a very important topic, and advise girls of what to look for if they suspect foul play in the area of hygiene on a penis. Just as much as men complain about a woman’s “tuna smell,” women should also be concerned with the ring of cheese if the head is not properly cleaned.
The power of the Dong is grooming. if you don’t like touching hairy boobs then why dose she like touching hairy balls? when I groom my Dong it: smells better, looks bigger and better, more welcomeing to touch,feels better and they say it taste better too. The same goes for butts. for a hot girl to wax you only cost $15-25.
with this could you talk about sensitivity? Maybe I’ve just gotten used to it, but my girlfriend hates it when it takes me too long to orgasm (20-40 min usually). I know they sell anti climax gel, but I need something that will make me go sooner. even masturbating takes a long time. I don’t use a “death grip” or anything, it’s just that it takes me too long. She hates giving blowjobs cause I last too long, and who wants that in their mouth for 20 min?! LOL
Also if you can talk about shaving- if you miss a day down there then it feels like you have sandpaper between your legs and can rub you raw. And that the line on your scrotum is natural- you never had an accident and had to be sewn back together and you were never a girl whose parents had changed into a boy at a young age. (LOL!)
Size- the whole foot/nose/forearm/finger measurement guide is totally out of whack. I’m 6′2″, size 12 foot and have a 7″ penis. But I have huge hands- if I took that as a measurement then I’d have something like a 8-10 incher!
First off I wish that penis was spelled penus because thats how I always want to spell it
I would like to say that size doesn’t always matter, personally I am just excited to have a completely unique new cock to play with that I don’t really worry about size. I am just interested in what I can do with what I have in my hand. I hope that other girls feel this way and that it make guys feel more secure.
As for technique everyone is different so communicate and ask for communication.
As someone that enjoys giving oral sex a great deal…I have done it many many many times and it doesn’t always go well. If you keep doing it at some point you will gag, throw up a little or get a pubic hair stuck right on the back of your tongue ugh! The important thing is too not let this ruin the experience be calm and cool about the situation. Say wait a sec I got a hair, oops hit wrong spot in throat etc.
I just would like to put this out there… The first time I saw a penis in real life, I couldn’t believe they actually existed. I mean I KNEW they existed..but…it freaked me out a little.
Unwanted
If it weren’t for the whole loss of fertility thing I would consider swapping my penis for a vagina. Just because you have a penis does not make you excited about it.
Circumcision
I’m circumcised. My Dad “wanted me to look like him.” My younger sister who’s a nurse observed circucision done on a baby and she says that she will never think it’s OK again. There are some scary baby screaming while being circucised videos out there!
Shaving
I have shaven my genitals before. Those beard trimmers can cut you. ordinary razors actually seem to work better. The worst part is razor bumps.
Masturbation
I have given myself friction burns from masturbation, but the masturbating was hardly marathon sessions. Oh, and I totally reccomend the frenulum as a sensitive spot.
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Well, maybe just to remind girls that just like there is no safe recepie for female pleasure, men too have preferences in regard to handjobs and blowjobs (speed, pressure, roughness, teeth, deepthroating, gagging, etcetera)
Beside the usual insecurities that men have regarding size. Many worry abut curvature even though it’s normal to have some degree of curvature. Also, a mention to the notion growers vs. show-ers. Some are larger while flaccid than others, but while erect, most are on average, of similar size. Another issue you may want to discuss is how men are taught and many believe that their penis is the only sexually responsive part of the body, there are plenty of other areas that should not be ignored besides the obvious testicles. There’s an entire body of to the male form that can be receptive to the proper attention. Lastly some discussion of circumcision, pros and cons, etc.
I second the suggestions on the circumcision (sensitivity, appearance, etc.) and curvature, and also suggest that you discuss the importance of hygiene, both for cut and un-cut penises (and for the vag too, of course).
Another topic of interest is the importance of lubrication. Nobody should ever think, out of naivete, that they can just go at the wang without lube of some sort.
You might want to warn about the dangers of putting anything in your/his urethra (I’ve heard a lot of crazy stories).
Did you know penises like music? It’s true! Ladies can become skilled trouser snake charmers by playing a happy tune on a flute, recorder, or kazoo.
Here are some of my penis’s favorite songs:
Jewel – I’m Sensitive
Sting – You Still Touch Me
U2 – Stranger In A Strange Land
Nickel Creek – Spit on a Stranger
Franz Ferdinand – Take Me Out
I hope this was informative. Looking forward to your next episode!
P.S. If you could mention “Doug’s penis” somewhere in the show, it would really make my day. Thanks!
Urethra pain after orgasm can sometimes happen, especially if you don’t urinate shortly afterwards to clean things out (leftover semen can clog it up). So don’t worry–you don’t (necessarily) have an STD.
Strategies for covering up a boner during class/discussions/nude beach visits could be helpful.
And I agree–please clear things up about circumcision. I discovered my circumcision scar had left a tiny hole–just enough for a ring to go through. Thanks for the free piercing job, doc!
BIGGGG important thing, I know circumcision has been lightly covered, but, actually, being a circumcised american, living in Europe, I’ve learned that an uncut penis responds a lot differently, like apparently some things I can do easily really hurt for them, etc. Actually, if an uncut guy could give some advice on the subject it would really be helpful, I’m still not great at it, my first boyfriend was cut, so I’m having to learn all over again, and some how, I seem to manage to hurt my italian partners in one fashion or the other, so yeah, this would really be helpful…. kisses
AR
Needless to say, adress the insecurity people have concerning penis size.
I have a 18 cm (7 inch) penis, and I was afraid mine was small, I didnt know it was the opposite untill I showed it to someone else.
Everybody is insecure, but it is not the size that matters. A big penis helps, but technique helps alot more. Unfortunatly for virgins (the ones that dont watch porn with a measuring tape for comparison) dont know whether their penis is small or big, and they sure as hell dont know how to use it
If you are going to adress the size issue, follow these guidelines;
Mention the average size, but subtract 10 to 20 percent.
(confidence is necesairy when you go and have sex, and it is probably more important than size)
Say that if the size scares a woman away, it really wasnt meant to be anyways.
We “in the business” (I’m a sex educator) tell our audiences (when discussing anatomy, of course) that 90% of penises are, on the average, 6-7 inches. That means 10% are not… 5% over and 5% under. Stop watching porn (just like your Porn episode reminds us.) and get a “grip” on reality. Porn obviously only represents approximately 5% of the male population!
Hmm… Not sure how much you might want to get into the circumcision thing, but I think there’s a lot of information on circumcision that needs to get out there.
I was cut when I was a baby, and - without any bitterness towards my parents - I really, really wish I hadn’t been. One of the themes I’d like to see in the video are ‘foreskins aren’t just okay - they’re cool’.
Let’s face it - they are. The foreskin is - and I can only base this on hearsay since I don’t personally have one - the main source of male sexual pleasure. I have the rest of the penis and that’s pretty awesome, so I can only imagine what I’m missing out on.
Although I *can* think of one thing that I’m missing out on. I’m personally unable to achieve orgasam from a blowjob. I found this out when I had my first girlfriend. I was kind of worried that there was something wrong with me, so I went to a family planning clinic to get checked out. My lack of a foreskin was the culprit - otherwise, I’m perfectly healthy sexually. Some guys who are cut are able to have an orgasm from a blowjob, but it’s not uncommon.
It should be noted that this turned out to be almost as much of a dissapointment to my girlfriend at the time as it was to me.
Also, when the foreskin is pulled back it has the function of thickening the shaft of the penis. And although length and width may not be *everything*, they certainly help.
Additionally, one of the original justifications for circumcision of boys was to make sex as unpleasant as possible without actually threatening the drive to reproduce. It’s a justification that’s fallen out of favor these days, but it used to be the main one.
Since then, the justifications for circumcision are that it will avoid infections (infections that can be avoided through proper sanitation and can be easily and cheaply treated with antibiotics if they do crop up), that it reduces the risk of HIV infection (preventable with condoms, and you can still catch HIV either way), it removes smegma (a naturally occurring lubricant of built up gunk inside the foreskin that sounds grosser than it actually is, and can easily be cleaned out with hand soap), and that it increases the aesthetic appeal of the adult penis - which is ridiculous. Adult penises aren’t meant to be pretty - they’re meant to shag the hell out of a deserving partner.
Essentially, circumcision has fallen into the realm of a taboo against men with foreskins for the sake of a taboo against men with foreskins. There’s no justification for limiting a man’s sexual pleasure in this way. None at all.
There’s a series by Penn and Teller on YouTube about circumcision that’s very much worth a watch.
Anyway, that’s me done. I’ll get down off my soap-box now.
Oh, and I should probably through out there that when I say my girfriend and I were dissapointed at my inability to acheive orgasam from oral sex, I’m not trying to suggest that sex is all about the male orgasam.
In fact, that could be another theme for the video. There should be more to the penis - and to male sexuality in general - than just cumming on things.
Size relating to going down.
Warning: Big dick and frequent sucking, over several years, can lead to short term lock jaw, and long term jaw problems TMJ, ect.
Back Story:
My first serious boyfriend in highschool, and the first guy I ever sucked to orgasm, was…let’s just say above average. Because of the unfortunate fact that his father is an Eastern Orthodox Priest, and if I got pregnant excommunication would not be off the table.
(Yes, my first significant sexual discoveries were under the threat of powerful archbishops and the holy authorities)
Needless to say I sucked his dick, alot. He had a voracious appetite and assumed that I felt the same about his load after it shot down my throat. Literally went down on him every opportunity we got, which was at least once every two-three days. In college, a year after we broke up, I went to the orthodontist due to jaw pain so bad it led to migraines. Apparently I had developed TMJ.I still suck a great dick, just have to rub icy hot on my jaw afterwards.
hah! icy hot… (sorry)
anyway,
i agree with talking about the circumcision verses foreskin, as it kind of confused me for a while. National Geographic helped me to see what the foreskin was.
Also, i would say just talk about general appearances. Not only should you talk about penis size, but also testicle size.
1) talk about size.
and please don’t give some bullshit “it doesn’t matter” speech. because clearly, to some girls, it does matter. So just be honest about it, don’t try to save people’s feelings.
2) oh yeah, and i’ve never read this online, but it’s from experience. when you’re using your hand, start your first stroke from the top and go down. if you start from the bottom and go up, it pulls the skin and hurts.
3) point out that the ridge at the bottom of the head is where the action is, so if you’re touching / sucking etc and not stimulating that part, then it doesn’t feel good.
i love your site, keep it up.
Well, I don’t have anything to say, but when I scrolled down to the bottom of the page, the re-captcha said “touched the” and I couldn’t resist sharing. XD
Che, that’s very enlightening about the lack of foreskin not causing you to reach orgasm during oral sex. I admit that I’m probably not the best giver of oral sex as I’ve only brought one boyfriend to orgasm via mouth. I have yet to bring my fiance to orgasm, and I wonder if it’s because he is circumcised. I’ve only dated one man that had his foreskin still attached. I don’t doubt that I have a lot of work to do regarding technique, but with your info provided, it may not all be me. Maybe something else you could talk about is overly long sex drives…like I should complain lol…but sometimes we get to where we’ve been having sex for almost 2 hours and it starts to hurt and my mind wanders. When I’ve reached several orgasms and I start to wonder what the heck is taking so long. We’ve gotten into arguments about that and he says it’s how he’s conditioned himself, and that I have to recondition myself…I dunno, compromise is clearly in order…If anyone has any feedback on this, or if you could work in this angle, that would be great (or maybe address this in a future episode). Thanks!
I would like to kno if u could talk about the difference between an uncut penis and a cut one.
when i found out that it felt good to touch it when it was larger than usuall, and that the whole penis skin cuting of thing is bs.
This guy friend of mine sent me a pic of his penis on AIM and I thought it was HUGE! how big is normal? and is a picture usually an accurate measuring device or was i steered wrong?
In response to Sir Spanks-a-lot, I’d like to see some clarification regarding the use of lube in masturbation. I’ve heard that you shouldn’t masturbate without some sort of lubrication, but personally, I masturbate pretty frequently and almost never use lube, and I’ve never had any problems with it.
Jenn,
That really sucks about you and your fiance. My guess would be that yes, it’s probably the fact that he’s circumcised. Once again - not every man who has been circumcised has this problem, but a significant number do.
At the risk of getting a bit too personal, there’s a few things I can suggest.
Firstly, if your boyfriend masturbates at all, he should stop. With my girlfriend at the time (currently single) I found that I could achieve orgasam from vaginal sex much more easily if I stopped masturbating. That’s not to say that masturbating doesn’t have it’s bonuses - it does. But in this particular case, it might be helpful if he could stop.
The other thing is that - presuming he can bring himself to orgasam from masturbation - involve his self-masturbation when the two of you are having sex. (I sound so clinical… This is so weird. I don’t know how you guys at MTSS do it.) I tried this approach with my girlfriend at the time, and once I’d achieved orgasam in this way with her it became easier to do so from vaginal sex.
Finally, the best piece of advice for you and your fiance is that you don’t need to condition yourself to match him… I’m not sure about the context of how the two of you came to that conclusion, but I’m actually inclined to get a bit angry at your fiance about how you told me he phrased it. I won’t because I might be reading you wrong. But if I’m right, it’s totally unfair on you for him to say that you need to condition yourself to last longer during sex in order to match his needs.
The biggest thing that would help is if the two of you could get used to the idea that sex doesn’t actually have to include the male orgasam for it to be rewarding. It’s actually one of the little perversities of modern sexuality that the male orgasam is seen as the be-all and end-all of sex. Sex is about the whole of both of your bodies, and about the whole of your relationship. The whole thing should be enjoyable. If you guys can shag away for an hour (two hours seems like stretching a good thing too far to me, but whatever you both enjoy is good for you) and have a really good time doing it, then that’s great. Once you take the pressure off, his orgasam - if and when it happens - stops being a goal and becomes an added bonus. When all the focus is just on the male orgasam, you can miss out on a lot of other good stuff that could be going on.
So when my girlfriend and I started to have sex in this way, it took the pressure off. We stopped having sex in hot pursuit of orgasam and started having sex for the purpose of exploring and pleasuring one another’s bodies… We experimented with each other’s bodies more, and in the process found things about eachother - and ourselves - that we enjoyed that we ordinarily wouldn’t have discovered. The little things that are unique to each person. And in time, some of those things managed to get me off on a fairly regular basis - maybe once every four sessions or so.
Hope that helps… Happy to answer more if you have more questions.
Actually, I have one other thing I’d like to reccomend, but I’d rather not put it up here.
HEY!!! NIKOL!!! GUY!!!
Is there some way you guys can help me get an email to Jenn without either of us publishing our email addresses? I know that emails are embedded into the comments somehow. Could I send an email to one of you and have you pass it on to Jenn for me, please?
Shaving the penis and/or balls is a difficult thing — but a necessary thing I believe. I used to be scared to place anything sharp near my testicles…but I find that it truly makes a world of difference and the ladies seem to appreciate it.
And shaving parts of you body other than your face does not necessarily make you gay.
Could you explain the Whole Puppetry of the Penis Craze?
How about Body Painting works with the Dong?
Why Don’t we see painted Dudes at Playboys MidSummers Party?
UnCircumsized dong’s are not GROSS and it’s ok to touch them… they all look the same when erect anyway…
Hygiene as always is KEY for any and all Genitalia…
oh, and lots of my teenage girl friends thought for some reason the Penis has two holes, one for urine and one for semen…there has to be a joke in there somewhere…
How about the fact that the key to great sex isn’t the size of the penis but how it is used?? Granted, it’s difficult to work with a small penis, but a large penis doesn’t equal great or even necessarily good sex. and @ che, I’ve never had a boyfriend that was circumcised have a problem reaching orgasm when I perform oral. Perhaps it’s not necessarily that you don’t have foreskin but that you just have fewer nerve endings in the head (which is where I’ve always heard was the most sensitive). Just my thought on that. : P
oh, and McChasty, I totally agree. If you boys want us to be smooth downstairs, I think you should definitely do the same! No girl wants to be hacking up a fur ball later! lol
Well, hygiene is a major issue when is comes to male genitalia.
Also, I find that raising the subject that men have it harder than women. We have to deal with “re-occurring” morning problems. Girls may use the excuse about PMS’ing but they never thought about men having to wake up, look down and have his dong harder than a rock. Every morning at a certain time we get the term “Morning Wood” and you should discuss why and how it happens.
Other than that, I feel girls do have the down side with genitalia. Until tomorrow…. Lol.
if this episode is going to be about the ‘dong’ why not make the next one about the ‘cooch’. if people need to know about circumcision, nerve endings, and whether or not to have a shaved manhood, i think people should also know about clits, their nerve endings, and whether or not to have a shaved womanhood. both topics are important to know, i think. Good luck. i really enjoy your show and the information you’re putting out there
yar, just like talk about sizes for teenage guys.
things like length, girth, width, proper measuring techniques? sum guys get a ruler and stab it in as far as they can into the pubic area flesh to get a measurement while some use the underside??? yeah, i seen confused people XD
DO NOT PUT BENGAY ON OR AROUND THE TESTICULAR AREA!
That is all.
at what point in making out/hooking up/whatever it is called these days does a guy actually get an erection?????????
A few things that haven’t already been noted here:
1) Not only is it not a toy, but it’s a part of the body like all others. If you manhandle *snicker* it, it can get cuts and abrasions. They heal, but don’t get freaked out - it only means you’re squeezin’ the sausage with a little too much gusto.
2) The size and shape of the urethral opening can change over time. For lots of guys, it gets bigger through the puberty years. Don’t worry - your dong is not going to split like a hot dog bun.
3) Want to immediately feel a bit better about your size? Trim the hedges down there.
4) Sure, semen is messy. But don’t try to cover your urethra when you ejaculate. Retrograde ejaculation can cause serious problems over time. Remember, semen is biological, and as biological matter, it can both get and cause infections just like any fluid in your body. Also, it shares the emergency exit with another fluid, urine… and mixing those isn’t really the best idea.
ok, are we trying to tell girls and boys to have sex or not, too? I think we’re trying to tell them to wait! So, lets think about what we say about the penis. it’s different, they all look different, they are all different sizes, they produce the magic juice that makes babies and the pull-out method doesn’t work. lets just make sure it’s educational. one of the best classes i took in college, was sexuality through the life cycle and one class we had a slide show of penis, wow! and the next day vagina and another day porn. but, everyone is different…
and, i don’t know if we want to tell girls that all penis’s feel different. because, the small one’s…well, we all know you can barely feel them and the big one’s, they hurt, but some, they feel just right. and, i don’t know, but for girls, a first sexual experience is painful and no penis feels the same…ever.
anyway, that’s it.
@Dandilion Not knowing if you are a parent or not, I don’t know if you are trying to get kids to wait or move forward. While we take the stance that you should wait until you’re ready, educated and secure:
1.) I am not sure what “waiting” has to do with talking about penises.
2.) We are not an education site. So we probably won’t “make sure it’s educational”.
Great idea about no penis feeling the same, though.
Great ideas from all of you. I see some strong themes and we will do our best to use those in the writing on the episode.
Perhaps symptoms for STDs transferred from untested parents or sexual partners - it can be scary if you don’t know what’s going on with your penis, like if you’re getting a rash, and if you can’t figure out if it’s normal or not.
quite obviously… the main themes are the size, eventually thikness, circumsicion (or not) and mostly STDs… witherway, size doesn’t madder unless u are drastically over or under the norm (when having reached full age) of aproximately 15 cm for an erect penis (drastically meaning aprox. 10 cm), thickness… no clue there… but would be nice to know, Circumsicion -> would be nice to have a contrast between circumsized penises and non-circumsized ones (and not only the apearance but the pros and cons), there was a episode about STDs. What else? that would pretty much fit what I would have liked to have known when i started to become sexually active
Compare the size of the average penis to the size of the average vagina - that should help most guys with their insecurity.
Also, the point of sex is for you and your partner to achieve orgasm, not to impress anyone or look hot on film. Girls (or guys..) won’t care what your penis looks like if you know how to use it.
And if your partner is not quite comfortable with your penis even after you’ve done sexual things: just whip it out sometime while you’re watching a movie etc. and don’t do anything sexual. Just let it breathe.
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When discussing intact/non-intact penises, you may also want to mention the frenulum–the bit of skin that attaches the foreskin to the underside of the glans. It is very sensitive but can also tear during sex. Another issue would be pearly penile papules, which are most common among non-circumcised males and begin appearing during adolescence. Wikipedia has an article about them as do a number of medical schools on-line course notes.
As for size, be sure to look at the recent studies available on PubMed. 6-7 is the old Kinsey average which was self-reported. The more recent studies–including one that involved over 3000 men–show 5.5 to be more realistic.
Thanks.
Oh, also, it is possible to tear the skin of the penis from too much masturbation without lubrication. Not to worry, it would only occur during “marathon” sessions.
About size, you could make a joke about small penises, saying “it’s alright. They’re great for anal.” Or something like that.
Please discuss how a guy might instruct a girl to perform oral sex. My first boyfriend wasn’t able to articulate exactly what he wanted me to do and I had no idea how to go about it. (Luckily, I figured it out later.) For me, calling it a blow job was very confusing. You might want to point out that just blowing on it isn’t the usual technique.
Hey, definitely mention shaving. I haven’t given oral (yet ;D) but I have a big prob with hair and I definitely will not be able to give head with out making the guy feel incredibly bad…which would suck….no pun intended.
is there such thing as a problem where theres certain skin on the penis where it keeps growing?
and can someone really be 16 inches or bigger?
this is based on what someone else told me.
thanks
I just remembered, I had a friend who said she didn’t give head anymore because she tried it once and ended up throwing up on the guy. I’m fairly old and this hasn’t happened to me but if you think this may take place once in a while, you might want to talk about that. Imagine if it were the young man’s first time getting a blow job and the girl threw up on him! He could be scarred for life!
Hey, great input so far.
I like the bit about “the small ones are for anal”.
Here are some bits to fill the gaps:
- I read somewhere that circumcision is meant to prevent masturbation. That’s a horrible thought: To mutilate your child to destroy his sexual activity.
- I was really surprised to find out that I have lube glands. I have heard of some “small drop” before, but those glands never did much when I was masturbating. Only with a lot of stimulation over a longer time (like 30mins of petting maybe) I get wet. It’s more than a drop, enough to actually help with penetration.
- The next surprise was ejaculation range. Again, not much happens for me when masturbating, but, with a partner and slow sex, on a good day and with the right wind, anything in up to 60cm range can be hit. I find this a bit of a problem, as it’s actually quite hard to secure an entire room from sticky droplets.
- And yes, it is possible to hit your own eyes, and the one time it happened to me, it burned a bit. Just lie on your back and let her massage your penis slowly. If she does it long enough and has a good aim.. I’ve seen it coming.
Does anyone with a boyfriend have “sperm meets eye” experiences?
- Men usually see the upper side of their penis, while their partners see the lower side of it quite often. I once took a photo of the “other” side and it looks totally different. Get a mirror and check it out.
- There is a penis day in japan: Hounen Matsuri. It’s very erect and public, with a lot of wooden accessories.
I hope the next episode is as great as the other ones, keep up the good stuff.
For the longest time, I thought my penis was a muscle. Really. That’s worth explaining for the following reason: be nice to the penis. It’s a super-thin membrane stretched around an expanding sack of *blood.* Think of a water balloon FILLED WITH BLOOD.
I think you should point out the proper may to give a handjob/blowjob. I have had some VERY bad experiences with that and even if only a handful (no pun intended) of women learned the way to give one without hurting the recipient, Mankind will be greatly appreciative. Also, i love you ladies. I only discovered you today, but i watched all of your episodes. Keep up the good work.
FYI, We already recorded the episode. Keep talking though. This is interesting.
Whatwhatwhat, you recorded it? Whenever shall you post it then? I’m rather excited.
There are a lot of jokes about how men can never find a clitoris [your site includes a few], but there are plenty of women who when given a penis have no idea what to do with it. I’m one of the more experienced among my friends [I'm 16], and get asked for advice which seems… strange. Like, they really don’t know what to DO with it.
I suggest porn. Obviously, porn is unrealistic, but it will make penis’s less scary for you if you see them all the time.
I see there has been a lot of comments on size, circumcised vs. uncircumcised and tips for women to give a guy an orgasm, but nothing about other trials and tribulations. So I suggest you discuss the involuntary erection that happens to every single guy on the planet at the worst absolute possible, and most embarrassing, moments in time. Most embarrassing for me growing up was during school or dancing with another girl, in the locker room, at work, in church, etc., etc., etc., I also think this topic would also allow for some more humor in the show. I watch because it is not just educational, but it is hilarious.
Lime: It still surprizes me when I hear a girl say that penises are ’scary’.
I know that since I have one, I’m a bit biased. And I know that women probably think the same thing when men get all confused about what the hell we’re meant to be doing with their lady-parts (it doesn’t help that you’re all different).
But… It’s just a penis! If anything, we men should be the ones worried about you ladies doing something to hurt them. They’re bloody sensitive.
Damn, it’s already recorded? And I had some ideas, too….
–A lot of young guys get the mistaken notion that, when it comes to pleasing your partner, your penis is ALL you should be using. This is foolish, and akin to trying to paint a picture with your hands tied behind your back and holding the paintbrush with your mouth. Or taping the paintbrush to your penis.
–Lubrication is your friend, especially for handjobs; you’d be surprised at how long it can take you to get off when the hand doing the work isn’t yours. The first time you get chafing sores, you will be singing the praises of hand lotion. (And from the other side: if you’re frustrated at how long it takes your boyfriend to come by your hand, just put a dollop of hand lotion on your palm, make a fist to spread it out over your palm and fingers, and THEN go to work. You’ll both be amazed.)
–EVERY guy is insecure about penis size. Relax. Your penis is fine. In fact, being on the small side can actually work to your advantage, it could well make her MORE likely to want to have sex with you. Two words, guys: size hurts.
–The best way to CAUSE premature ejaculation is to WORRY about premature ejaculation. Don’t sweat it, and don’t tie yourself in knots apologizing; it happens. If your partner isn’t satisfied yet, just clean-up a bit and keep playing; your tongue and fingers aren’t limp, are they? And if you don’t give up in self-disgust, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how soon you’re ready for another go. (This is one of the great things about being young. After ten years or so, you’ll miss the hell out of it. Trust me.)
–I’ve noticed a few commenters talking about not sticking things in the guy’s urethra. Don’t worry about it. Unless the guy is REALLY into pain, doing it once will give you all the reason you need to not do it twice.
–Sex is messy. Sex involving penises tends to get REALLY messy. Guys, if you know or suspect you’re going to be fooling around later, stash a clean towel or two nearby. Your partner will appreciate it.
Oh, and McChasty? Two words, mate: beard trimmer. Buy one (doesn’t even have to be a good one), put it on its lowest setting, and go to it with no fear of cutting bits you REALLY don’t want cut. (The sideburn trimmer on most electric razors will also work, just be careful around any folded/wrinkly skin.) Unless you or your partner really have your heart(s) set on that close-shaved look/feel, it will give you pretty much everything you want.
I’d think this would work just fine for the ladies as well, but I can’t say for certain.
you should discuss the importance of the penis…if man didnt have a penis then what would the women do?! what good does the penis do for our world? think about it…if you get stranded on a deserted island, you can at least eat something…And how do piercings on the penis effect things?how does it feel to the women..AND DOES IT HURT WHEN INSIDE THE VAGINA?!
This post is about having your foreskin chopped. So when I say having it chopped, I mean the foreskin, not the entire penis.
I have a friend who had his foreskin chopped because he said it was too tight when it was retracted : I think you should suggest never having your foreskin chopped for anything, not even religion : you’ll have an easier time finding god with it…
I’m happy with my foreskin, since I had the same kind of tightness as my friend described, but it loosened it up over time with a bit of “stretching”. I understand that there may be really extreme cases of tightness that a doctor may suggest the chop for, but seriously, I would never give my foreskin for anything. Not even a million dollars. And I found mine REAL tight a few years back.
Sure, with the chop you stay cleaner, with your hood you can get all smelly and crappy and have all that smeg built up in it, but its like any other part of your body, if you don’t wash it, either way, its gonna smell like high hell if you leave it for a few days. Hell, I wouldn’t chop my head off because my breath stinks like shit after not brushing one morning.
However, my point is, I don’t see why you would want to derive yourself of the added pleasure that is inherited with an unchopped penis. Don’t get your penis chopped cause everyone else has.
You owe it to your children not to deprive them of foreskin when they are born as well, bare that in mind.
Notice how I used chopped because I cant spell circumsized… and my firefox doesn’t find the correct spelling for it!
Cheers.
I don’t think my last comment posted…so here we go again.
I doubt this will help with the making of the Dong episode, but let’s face it. Penises are kind of gross.
I have watched (and adore) your homosexuality episode, but as a gay female (with a HUGE crush on Britany) I would very ,much like to see an episode on Lesbians.
Your show is amazing, I love and support it whole heartedly!
<3 Katina Kay.
p.s. Gay marriage is almost legal in California, now. Does Britany like the beach?
I am a teen volunteer at planned parenthood and we getting several questions regarding size and foreskin vs. no foreskin. I think it would be cool to address how they all look different. It would be awsome if you guys talk about how pre-ejaculate does carry sperm. The basic anatomy of a penis would be good too(how is it possible for the sperm and urine to come out the same hole)..lala stuff like that.
I love the show. It is accurate and entertaining. It brings fun to talking about sex….sex is fun by it self…if not your doing it wrong.
Love always,
Heather
Katina - The penis isn’t gross. It’s a natural part of a guy’s body. You just aren’t into them and that’s fine. Women bleed every month and I’m a woman and find that pretty gross. Your suggestion about a Lesbian episode is good, though. Despite bleeding every month, women are much more sexy than guys, in my opinion, and maybe some teens need to know it’s OK to feel like that.
One thing that should probably come up at some point is “semen etiquette”. Your oral sex episode covered the basics of “spit vs. swallow”, but there’s more to it than that. When and where it’s acceptable for the guy to make a mess is something that every couple should decide. Before it happens, preferably.
Polly — Actually, I think Katina is fundamentally right, she just doesn’t carry it far enough.
It’s not that penises are gross — sex is gross. When you were a little kid, did you ever see explicit pictures of people doing it? Not just bouncing butts, but really detailed stuff leaving nothing to the imagination about what goes where or what kinds of bodily fluids were involved? Which was your response?
A) “That’s incredibly appealing for reasons I simply cannot put my finger upon, and I feel compelled to seek out more.”
B) “Okay, gonna barf now.”
I think for most of us, it was choice B. Lord knows it was for me.
As we get older, I don’t think we get “wiser” so much as “bathed in hormones.” Quite against our will and better judgment, our bodies start saying (nay, screaming) “That’s not disgusting — that’s fun! You should go try it. Soon. And as many times as possible.”
So as a straight guy, I find myself in exactly the same boat as Katina: neither of us got re-wired at puberty to look at a dangling dong and say “Ooh, yeah. I gotta get me some of that!” So don’t sweat it, Katina. They are gross. Mine is — and I’ve never stopped being amazed by (or appreciative of) the women in my life who’ve found it dead sexy.
Just two caveats:
1) I’ve learned to accept my gross dangly male bits. I’m cool with them. We have a good working relationship. But all the other gross dangly male bits in the world can stay away, thanks. I have nothing against them and wish them and their owners all the happiness in the world … somewhere else.
2) Vaginas are, objectively speaking, every bit as gross as penises. I just don’t generally think about them that way any more ‘cuz … seriously. I gotta get me some of that.
well this post doesn’t really have to do with the topic perse…it’s moreof my suggestion for a topic for a different episode. It’s been posted a lot here about things such as shaving, and I think that could be a different episode entirely. Talking about pros vs. cons, shaving making you look bigger, making some jokes about “erotic shaving”, and commenting on methods (such as waxing) and the irritaion and itchyness that follows. So I thought it was a good topic, especially since it’s something new I’ve been trying lately.
Guys: if you want a girl to go down on you, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE pay attention to your genital hygiene. It would also be great if you could do a little lawn maintenance as well - having to stop every few minutes during oral sex to remove pubes from your mouth is NOT cool.
Oh and guys? Forget what you’ve seen in the pornos. Shoving a girl’s head all the way down onto your penis during oral sex, while pleasurable for you, will most likely result in her choking and/or vomiting on your genitals. Also not cool.
Rose: It kinda disturbs me that there are guys out there stupid enough to need that advice. It always seemed pretty obvious to me that if I was fortunate enough to have a woman around who was open to the possibility of giving me blowjobs on a semi-regular basis, then the more pleasant I could make the experience for her, the more blowjobs I could expect to get. This seems pretty self-evident, and I would have thought that the lure of getting more blowjobs would be motivation enough for any man.
The best advice i can give is this. Advice for girls, on the difference in male genitals. Just like all girls are different, so are guys. Some guys curve (one way or another) are different sizes, and shapes.
Most importantly are two things. Firstly, uncut. In america, i think its a bigger thing than most places but a lot of girls still get kinda ‘icked out’ by an uncut penis, for whatever reason - the way it ‘works’ the appearance, texture, somehow they are convinced because its not dry and hard that it has to be wet and icky. Its no worse than a vagina and serves the SAME purpose. Girls are moist and lubricated, so are uncut males, thats how nature designed them.
Secondly is penis SIZE. This isnt even the ‘oh no i have a small penis’ thing, its GROWTH. Before i met my wife, i was hesitant to get handjobs, or blowjobs from girls in general. While not small (six and something, go me) when flaccid i am no more, at most, than about an inch in size (and uncut at that), on a good day. When erect i pass six, but a lot of girls don’t understand this and if they see a flaccid - or semi–erect penis - they assume this will reflect the end size. It doesnt. I dreaded for YEARS the idea of girls seeing me when i wasnt erect for fear - and this turned out to be a true fear more than once - that girls would judge the flaccid size for what i would be while erect. Girls need to understand that there are Growers, and Showers. Showers are large all the time, but grow little when erect. Growers are much - often MUCH - smaller when flaccid, but grow far more.
Ultimately, despite the flaccid size, all men average out - life isnt porn after all - and thats important for girls to know.
Pretty much for guys, its the same as for girls - especially uncut - Girls genitals are not uniform in size, smell, taste, texture or shape, they are moist and lubricated and this is what causes a lot of the smell and texture. Guys - especially uncut guys - are the same, for almost exactly the same reasons.
Some girls are put off by uncut men, which is a shame because they are designed like that for a reason. The foreskin provides a seal and prevents the natural - and artifical if you need it - lubrication from drying up, it creates smoother, easier motion, the male isnt as desensitized - which in some cases is a lot - so there is less need for frantic, rough motions. SO unless you’re into that, you’re better off in almost every way with uncut.
Some doctors will tell you that uncut penis’ are more likely to pass on STDs, but at the same time some doctors disagree, so its a difficult subject. At the same time, if you are AT ALL worried about STDs you should be wearing a condom anyway.
That is all.
Pete - I think a child who was just shown pictures of people having sex and didn’t know what it was would just want to know what the people were doing. I don’t think they’d form an opinion about it being gross unless they were influenced by an adult who had told them their genitals were ‘unclean,’ or something like that. At what age were you shown these explicit pictures? (I’m assuming it happened to you.) Sounds like the way it was presented to you may not have been beneficial.
why is a dick that shape? it is a ugly shape if you ask me
As yet another homosexual female, haha, i agree completely with both Katina and Polly. However, i think it would be kinda a bit unfair to do just an episode on lesbians, and none on homosexual men. I did happen to love the gay episode, that was great; but yes, i do think there should be another one of some sorts, just to let kids know that it is okay to feel how they might be feeling.
When i realized I liked females, i was absolutely terrified. so yeah, i think it would be incredibly beneficial for kids to be able to see a show like this, and know that it’s not a horrible thing.
So somebody mentioned earlier that sometimes women vomit during or after oral sex.
i think that this is probably caused by the gag reflex, which most people have, involving the tonsils and the throat.
I know that i have gagged a few times while trying to deepthroat my boyfriend. Luckily, i controlled the vomiting instinct.
All in all, if you dont want to gag/throw up, dont try to deepthroat.
this also relates to the advice not to push the giving partner’s head down. this could trigger the gag reflex, and… its consequences. so just be gentle.
You could talk about a bigger penis isn’t always better.
Like guys can drive big cars, but it doesn’t mean they can control them. Sometimes your better off with a voltzwagon.
Do with that what you will, love the show.
Wish it happened more, but once a month is better than
“Oh, we lost interest”
Im attempting to spread your fanbase at Plainfield Central.
Growing up, I had no idea about circumcision. When I heard about it, I looked down and saw the scar and the brown ring around the shaft. The brown ring goes away when he grows, but it’s still weird. So, I was weirded out for a few years til I saw what an uncircumcised weenis looked like and what kind of upkeep you need to do on it as far as cleaning. I’m glad I was cut. He looks like an Olympic cyclist with a crew-cut and not a nerdy kid with a puffy jacket.
Definately size, and the related fears/stigma that come with it should be discussed.
And also the fact that it’s hard to hide your feelings when you’re wearing speedo’s!
I think you should also discuss color (some penises are very colorful, and can easily scare any virgin) as well as semen taste–and how to cover it up. Hygiene is also a very important topic, and advise girls of what to look for if they suspect foul play in the area of hygiene on a penis. Just as much as men complain about a woman’s “tuna smell,” women should also be concerned with the ring of cheese if the head is not properly cleaned.
When is this one coming out?? It’s been too long!
One word:
Foreskin.
The power of the Dong is grooming. if you don’t like touching hairy boobs then why dose she like touching hairy balls? when I groom my Dong it: smells better, looks bigger and better, more welcomeing to touch,feels better and they say it taste better too. The same goes for butts. for a hot girl to wax you only cost $15-25.
Discuss how such a small thing, can become a big thing that causes big problems.
with this could you talk about sensitivity? Maybe I’ve just gotten used to it, but my girlfriend hates it when it takes me too long to orgasm (20-40 min usually). I know they sell anti climax gel, but I need something that will make me go sooner. even masturbating takes a long time. I don’t use a “death grip” or anything, it’s just that it takes me too long. She hates giving blowjobs cause I last too long, and who wants that in their mouth for 20 min?! LOL
Also if you can talk about shaving- if you miss a day down there then it feels like you have sandpaper between your legs and can rub you raw. And that the line on your scrotum is natural- you never had an accident and had to be sewn back together and you were never a girl whose parents had changed into a boy at a young age. (LOL!)
Size- the whole foot/nose/forearm/finger measurement guide is totally out of whack. I’m 6′2″, size 12 foot and have a 7″ penis. But I have huge hands- if I took that as a measurement then I’d have something like a 8-10 incher!
First off I wish that penis was spelled penus because thats how I always want to spell it
I would like to say that size doesn’t always matter, personally I am just excited to have a completely unique new cock to play with that I don’t really worry about size. I am just interested in what I can do with what I have in my hand. I hope that other girls feel this way and that it make guys feel more secure.
As for technique everyone is different so communicate and ask for communication.
As someone that enjoys giving oral sex a great deal…I have done it many many many times and it doesn’t always go well. If you keep doing it at some point you will gag, throw up a little or get a pubic hair stuck right on the back of your tongue ugh! The important thing is too not let this ruin the experience be calm and cool about the situation. Say wait a sec I got a hair, oops hit wrong spot in throat etc.
I can’t wait to see the new episode. Thanks!
I just would like to put this out there… The first time I saw a penis in real life, I couldn’t believe they actually existed. I mean I KNEW they existed..but…it freaked me out a little.
Unwanted
If it weren’t for the whole loss of fertility thing I would consider swapping my penis for a vagina. Just because you have a penis does not make you excited about it.
Circumcision
I’m circumcised. My Dad “wanted me to look like him.” My younger sister who’s a nurse observed circucision done on a baby and she says that she will never think it’s OK again. There are some scary baby screaming while being circucised videos out there!
Shaving
I have shaven my genitals before. Those beard trimmers can cut you. ordinary razors actually seem to work better. The worst part is razor bumps.
Masturbation
I have given myself friction burns from masturbation, but the masturbating was hardly marathon sessions. Oh, and I totally reccomend the frenulum as a sensitive spot.