Comments on: Story Time: What’s the problem? http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/ A video show about teen sexuality. Mon, 21 May 2012 22:21:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: somebody http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-116020 somebody Sun, 28 Dec 2008 00:16:08 +0000 http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/#comment-116020 My biggest Problem was and still is: People think that I'm quite self-confident. Ok, that's true actually, I can talk to total strangers, and do presentations in front of people without problems. But my self-confidence stops the moment I "have to" do the first step. After this first step it's absolutely no problem. I can have great sex, dirty talk/sex, whatever. But this first step is indescribably hard. I'm 26 now. I had one relationship over 5 years. (Which was actually started by her by the way... she was 5 years older than me, but that wasn't an issue in bed or anywhere else) Now I've been out on the dating scene for about 2 years. Let me give you a quite funny example: Not long after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, I met this really gorgeous girl (Let's call her G. = Girl). G. is smart, has great sens of humor and so on. Let's say she's quite perfect for me. Here are 2 self-confident things I said that did a quite good job (somehow) to get her interested in me: 1. We (some friends, G. and me) are at a pub and just about to leave. So another girl says to me "Down it or have sex with your ex." (This actually doesn't work that good in English, it's much better in German - it's a wordplay: The German word "Ex" relates to "Ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend" as well as to "Down it") And I respond: "Hey why not?! Sex wasn't our problem at all!" G. heard that and didn't know what else to say. 2. G tells me in a quite interesting moment that she likes to have control, so she likes to be on top. My answer: "Oh you little flyweight, I'll have control over you even if you're on top." G. : "....?!" BUT THEN: I waved at two opportunities. First I told here at a party, after SHE had dragged me off to an empty room that (quote) I don't have the aim to have sex with her tonight (end quote). I did that, because I thought she should know that I'm not just interested in sex but in more than that ... maybe that text would have been better ..... maybe just shutting up would have been the even better idea ;-) And secondly when I was at her place, and she asked me to stay over night, I decided to ran for the last train. (How stupid am I??) Of course she dumped me before we had even started. By the way, I'm not really uncomfortable about this. I's just me. But it's kind of ... unhandy. In contrast: A friend of mine has a different problem: He is about 36 or something, and he got a lot of sex through the internet. He once had 6 girls in 5 days. Crazy! His problem is: If he treats the girls like a peace of sh$%§ they like it, and what more of it. But then it's just sex. On the other hand: If he has a girl he really likes and he wants to have a relationship with her and he is nice to her (no, he's not acting) ... what happens? The girl is not interested in him. So his conclusion: Girls want to be treated like sh§$&. ... I still hope that this is not true, otherwise I'll be dying an unloved, oversexed and underfu$§%ed death ;-) My biggest Problem was and still is: People think that I’m quite self-confident. Ok, that’s true actually, I can talk to total strangers, and do presentations in front of people without problems. But my self-confidence stops the moment I “have to” do the first step. After this first step it’s absolutely no problem. I can have great sex, dirty talk/sex, whatever. But this first step is indescribably hard. I’m 26 now. I had one relationship over 5 years. (Which was actually started by her by the way… she was 5 years older than me, but that wasn’t an issue in bed or anywhere else) Now I’ve been out on the dating scene for about 2 years.
Let me give you a quite funny example: Not long after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, I met this really gorgeous girl (Let’s call her G. = Girl). G. is smart, has great sens of humor and so on. Let’s say she’s quite perfect for me. Here are 2 self-confident things I said that did a quite good job (somehow) to get her interested in me:
1. We (some friends, G. and me) are at a pub and just about to leave. So another girl says to me “Down it or have sex with your ex.” (This actually doesn’t work that good in English, it’s much better in German - it’s a wordplay: The German word “Ex” relates to “Ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend” as well as to “Down it”) And I respond: “Hey why not?! Sex wasn’t our problem at all!” G. heard that and didn’t know what else to say.
2. G tells me in a quite interesting moment that she likes to have control, so she likes to be on top. My answer: “Oh you little flyweight, I’ll have control over you even if you’re on top.” G. : “….?!”
BUT THEN: I waved at two opportunities. First I told here at a party, after SHE had dragged me off to an empty room that (quote) I don’t have the aim to have sex with her tonight (end quote). I did that, because I thought she should know that I’m not just interested in sex but in more than that … maybe that text would have been better ….. maybe just shutting up would have been the even better idea ;-)
And secondly when I was at her place, and she asked me to stay over night, I decided to ran for the last train.
(How stupid am I??)
Of course she dumped me before we had even started.

By the way, I’m not really uncomfortable about this. I’s just me. But it’s kind of … unhandy.

In contrast: A friend of mine has a different problem: He is about 36 or something, and he got a lot of sex through the internet. He once had 6 girls in 5 days. Crazy! His problem is: If he treats the girls like a peace of sh$%§ they like it, and what more of it. But then it’s just sex. On the other hand: If he has a girl he really likes and he wants to have a relationship with her and he is nice to her (no, he’s not acting) … what happens? The girl is not interested in him. So his conclusion: Girls want to be treated like sh§$&. … I still hope that this is not true, otherwise I’ll be dying an unloved, oversexed and underfu$§%ed death ;-)

]]> By: Charlie http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-115059 Charlie Thu, 18 Dec 2008 03:39:10 +0000 http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/#comment-115059 My biggest issue as a teenager is rather unfortunate: inability to climax with anyone, male or female. Its almost embarrassing but at the same time, not. My biggest issue as a teenager is rather unfortunate: inability to climax with anyone, male or female. Its almost embarrassing but at the same time, not.

]]> By: charrua http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-114905 charrua Tue, 16 Dec 2008 22:48:05 +0000 http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/#comment-114905 Had Intercourse for the first time at age 24 with my wife. Now I am 31 and have occasional curiosity about what sex with other women might be like. I don't regret my past "inactivity" but wish there were a way to be completely happy with what I got, and not what got away. Had Intercourse for the first time at age 24 with my wife. Now I am 31 and have occasional curiosity about what sex with other women might be like. I don’t regret my past “inactivity” but wish there were a way to be completely happy with what I got, and not what got away.

]]> By: Stephanie http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-114569 Stephanie Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:13:02 +0000 http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/#comment-114569 i've only had sex 3x & everytime it seems that my only problem is that i just lay there! like there's nothing going on that moves me to want to do anything when i'm having sex...i could be asleep for all it would matter. i feel like i'm kinda bored... is there something wrong with me??? i’ve only had sex 3x & everytime it seems that my only problem is that i just lay there! like there’s nothing going on that moves me to want to do anything when i’m having sex…i could be asleep for all it would matter. i feel like i’m kinda bored…

is there something wrong with me???

]]> By: charford http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-114427 charford Thu, 06 Nov 2008 21:18:58 +0000 http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/#comment-114427 Probably being raped and nobody believing me. That and being a dyke and not having any girls to do stuff with. After I broke up with the only other one in town. haha. Probably being raped and nobody believing me.

That and being a dyke and not having any girls to do stuff with. After I broke up with the only other one in town. haha.

]]> By: lisa http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-114352 lisa Wed, 29 Oct 2008 23:56:22 +0000 http://midwestteensexshow.com/2008/06/30/story-time-whats-the-problem/#comment-114352 two crazy stories: and i need answers! my friend recently started having this problem. she started seeing a new guy and everytime he fingered her, she would like bleed and get her period. its really weird. Like she had her period. then like a week later, he fingered her and she started bleeding. then the next day she had her period again. then a coule weeks later, he fingered her againn and then like the next day she had her period again. uhh is there some kinda of explaination? cuz its so bizzar secondly, my biggest sex problem: body image. I am always nervous about what i look like down there, so i never let my bf look while we are having sex. If i see his eyes wandering i yell "stop! dont look". its kinda silly and i know sex would be so much better if i was more comfortable with my body. thanks! and answer please! two crazy stories: and i need answers!

my friend recently started having this problem. she started seeing a new guy and everytime he fingered her, she would like bleed and get her period. its really weird. Like she had her period. then like a week later, he fingered her and she started bleeding. then the next day she had her period again. then a coule weeks later, he fingered her againn and then like the next day she had her period again.
uhh is there some kinda of explaination? cuz its so bizzar

secondly, my biggest sex problem: body image. I am always nervous about what i look like down there, so i never let my bf look while we are having sex. If i see his eyes wandering i yell “stop! dont look”. its kinda silly and i know sex would be so much better if i was more comfortable with my body.

thanks! and answer please!

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