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Hmmm…I’d have to say my biggest problem is that I have the hardest time setting aside my body image concerns when naked with someone else. Doesn’t matter if he says I’m gorgeous or I shouldn’t lose a pound or that I’m the sexiest thang he’s seen in a coon’s age.
I don’t like how I *imagine* I look to him.
Don’t get me wrong…this hasn’t stopped me from having *plenty* of good sex, but egads, I can’t help but think that it would be *GREAT* sex if I could just get out of my own way (and my own head).
When I was a teen, my problem was Identity Crisis. Not the ‘normal’ sexuality-based identity crisis, i.e. the Gay-Straight Question, but what did I like more; guys or girls? Based on when/where I grew up, I pretty much had to play it straight, being considered gay would likely get me grievously injured, and it wasn’t trendy to be bi back then… And I’m still not sure whether a bi male can be considered to be ‘trendy’ at all.
So, there I was, all through high school, in one of the only redneck bastions of California, only being able to openly date half of my sexual interest ‘type.’ I’d say I had a problem!
Oh, and for those of you who may think this could only happen back in the “good old days?” I graduated from high school in 1992, only a few years BI (That’s Before Internet, BTW)
My biggest sexual problem when I was a teen was that I could not manage to reach orgasm with any of the girls I fooled around with, nor did I manage to get any of them to reach climax (aside from an excitable girl when I was 14, who insisted she came from a kiss but I think she just had epilepsy). Had any of the major girlfriend or I managed to learn anything about pleasing a member of the opposite sex (no, honey, don’t pull on that so hard… yes, lube is a necessity…) I don’t doubt that I would have stayed a virgin another year if just because we would have had a sexual outlet that wasn’t coitus. I swear a big reason my first major girlfriend and I lost our virginity is because we were so sexual frustrated from seven months of unproductive heavy petting. It was sex or exploring in a wave of sexual froth and no one needs that.
I was, and still am, worried that my penis is too small
When I was 16 my family moved from Washington DC to Washington, Indiana, a small town with all its many small town charms. I went from being in a class of 2000 to being in a class of 100. In addition, I went from being a geek in my nice little social circle to being The New Kid. Which is normally good: you can reinvent yourself, give yourself a chance to be a new person, etc. I was pretty stoked until I realized that all the girls I’d want to date were and had been dating the same guy for half their lives. Or they were related to me. So I spent two years of high school trying to pass the time until I could escape. My biggest sexual issue was a lack of sex. I didn’t lose my virginity until I got to the Promised Land, college. After that everything was nice and typical, from worries about penis size to the occasional stress related impotence to pregnancy scares. But at least I didn’t father any three toed kids!
James
My biggest problem was that, whenever I would ask a girl to sleep with me, she would say “No.”
Actually, that didn’t happen every time. Sometimes she would say “No. Press ‘Debit’ or ‘Credit.’”
Couldn’t stand the fact that my libido was affecting the way I acted at times.
My biggest sexual problem is closely entwined with my problems with relationships. It doesn’t matter if I am crazy excited about a guy, about 99% of the time I become leery of him and removed once we kiss/fool around/have sex. This rarely happens when the guy himself is kind of a douchebag, however. I don’t know if it’s a defense mechanism, “high standards” or something deeper. It makes me think of that Groucho Marx quote from Annie Hall: “I don’t want to be in a club that would have me as a member”, even though I don’t feel self-loathing like Woody. The scared, hyper-questioning feeling is a weird one and has caused me to flee many a possibly-good relationship. I don’t like it! I wish I could figure it out.
And for the record that problem has been with me SINCE I was a teen. Ever since that first kiss with my HS love Mark Johnson, and I thought it was the best/worst thing I ever felt: so excited to kiss, and at the same time terrified of the gaping maw coming at me with all this expectation.
My biggest problem has less of a relation to actual sex and more of one to my emotional standing. I did not get my first boyfriend until I was 17 and I had a lot of walls that blocked me from getting too close to him.
Through my young life, I had created countless blocks and fortifications for my mind and emotions. I rarely became close to anyone, did not make friends easily and could not trust many people. Because of this, my poor boyfriend had to work with me extensively on dismantling the fortress of my mind.
We created so much trust between each other and so much admiration and love before we did anything at all. I would not allow for much PDA for months (about 7 or 8 actually), our first kiss did not occur until 2 months after we had been dating and it was a small quick peck on the lips (I wanted to kiss him and I knew it was coming but I was terrified at any hint of full French kiss).
We had such a gradual and slow progression of affections though through it all our love for each other only grew. He worked so much with me, helping me learn to love myself and to not be afraid of who I am. To show the world what I am capable of and how I can be a worthwhile investment of friendly time. Together we grew greatly as individuals and as a couple. Our worlds will never be the same now that we have entered into each other’s lives.
Time is an important thing and some people need more time than others to get used to a partner or simply a relationship. I am lucky that I had such a willing partner to help me through all the walls and to open up to the world.
Relationships need not always focus on sex, if anything that should be avoided- I have only know heartbreak to come of sex obsessed couples. Instead I find that sex, sexually attractiveness to your partner and comfort in your own sexuality are important and integral parts of a relationship; not what the relationship is all about.
Body image.
And sleeping with someone, trying to make them love me. =/
My biggest sexual problem when I was a teenager was the fact that I find it really hard to come to orgasam during sex.
I’ve mentioned this elsewhere on the site, but I’ll restate it here. There is a small but significan number of circumcised men who have great difficulty in achieving orgasam. Unfortunately for yours truly, I’m one of them.
As a teenager, I was under the impression that male sexuality was all about being in hot pursuit of orgasam. There’s a lot of other stuff that goes on during sex. Sex is something you do with your whole body, just not with your boy-parts (or girl-parts). Then there’s the whole thing where sex is even better if it becomes the medium by which you form and maintaining a deep and mutually rewarding emotional bond with the person you’re having sex with.
However, since I didn’t know that as a teenager, and since I could only rarely achieve orgasam from the attentions of my first girlfriend, I wound up thinking that I was a sexual failure. That’s never a nice thing to think about yourself. As time has shown, I was pretty much mistaken.
Ahh… If only I knew then what I know now.
Moral of the story: Now that I’ve readjusted my sights a little bit, the orgasam thing isn’t such a big deal. It just means that when it does happens, it’s that much more exiting for me and whoever my partner at the time happens to be. In the mean time, sex is great.
Mine is:
I would be completely paranoid about being pregnant (no matter how many birth control measures I would take)
And poor body image, I’m not a small girl by any means and I feel my body naked would gross someone else out. :/
I have guy friends who tell me they don’t notice smaller body issues (say stretchmarks) untill the girl tells them about it. But I never really know if this is because those particular guys are too horney to care or too distracted to notice, and other guys do pay more attention.
Oh, boy… I was raised by Christian fundamentalists, and I took my own faith very seriously. I was a True Believer. So my biggest sex problem as a teen was that I believed that I could and must be asexual until marriage (and marriage itself was not guaranteed to ever occur). Orgasms outside of marriage (alone or in company) were wrong. Unfortunately, I was not one of those kids who had any trouble reaching orgasm in all kinds of circumstances. My body repeatedly betrayed me, and I carried horrible guilt about it for years. I’m in my thirties and just beginning to really leave that behind.
My biggest thing is that I have some major self-image issues that I just need to get rid of. Like Lisa said up at the top, it doesn’t really matter how much he says that he loves me or how nice looking he thinks I am. It didn’t even help whenever he was all “I don’t care about what you look like, I only care about what’s in here *pointing at my heart*”.
I also have ANOTHER reason. 1. I believe that sex and all that jazz is the biggest way that you can show somebody you love them, what’s more romantic than giving yourself to somebody, eh? 2. I just don’t think that I’m ever capapble of loving somebody or giving myself up right away. I’m not saying that I’m too good for anybody, or anything like that, but I just can’t see myself doing it.
Well, I grew up in a household that was totally dysfunctional and was told by my entire family that I was fat and ugly. My younger brother’s first word when he learned to talk was ‘fatso’ and this was directed at me. As a result, I really thought I was fat and ugly until I moved away from home. This screwed up my sex life and relationships for over a decade after I was able to escape my family. I had HUGE body image problems, as you can imagine, and couldn’t believe anyone would actually love such a hideous person as myself. What finally solved it for me was becoming a mud wrestler and a stripper for a short period of time. I don’t recommend this for everyone, but a whole room full of guys screaming at me to take off my clothes and seeming pleased after I did so finally convinced me that I looked OK. I guess I would say to teens that if you’re getting similar negative messages at home, those people are wrong. People under the age of 20 are naturally attractive. That’s why old people pay all that money to plastic surgeons, trying to recapture their youth.
my problem is that i am too physical in my relationships/ my ex boyfriend and i were fooling around constantly. once we were fooling around even in front of my parents (descreatly(sp???))!!!
i hope my next relationship isn’t as physical.
Well as a FORMER teen who was sexually active way too early, I will have to say that STD’s and pregnancy were my biggest fears. my biggest issues were not being terribly social. I didn’t date and the second guy I tried to have a sexual relationship with was scared of me because of it. I had sex early, tried again, then waited a few years to try it again.
Now I am a thirty*mumble* divorced adult, still have the same fears about STD’s and pregnancy and still have the same issues with relationships in general. Now though I have more knowledge about sexual safety. I’m still working on the relationships though, cyber sex can be a good thing I have found, so can a good hand held shower massager.
It is happening to me right now…
and it sucks.
I am bisexual…but I’m not out, yet. There’s lots of people who think I’m a lesbian just because I kissed a girl. It really sucks because girls think I’m going to rape them. I’ve lots a couple of friends now because of this.
My biggest problem was that I was in love with my best guy friend (BGF), and he wasn’t in love with me. So I would date a different guy, push him into things to faster than I would normally like to make my BGF jealous, which always worked.
Then my BGF and I would fool around with each other on the side and I’d tell my boyfriend and we’d break up. Then BGF would remember that we shouldn’t be together and the whole thing would start all over again.
So I had a lot of “relationships” that lasted about a month till we had sex and then I’d break up with them.
My biggest sexual problem was (and still is) being comfortable with my sexual orientation. I’m bisexual, without a doubt. The problem is, most of the people I encounter assume that I’m just promiscuous. My mother reacted the same. She tried to tell me once that bisexual didn’t exist, and that I was either straight or a lesbian and that being open to all types of people was just a way for me to piss her off. I lost a lot of friends when I came out, just because they thought I was trying to be sexually trendy or they feared that I would start hitting on them all the time. I had to deal with being an outcast for a long time, up until my junior year of high school, when everyone else around me finally grew up.
I also have a very hard time interacting with people sexually and romantically. I’ve yet to really figure out why. It could be that I don’t see when people are attracted to me, or that I don’t know how to respond when they are. I’ve had very few serious relationships, and even then, they were long-distance. Otherwise, just hookups with friends. It’s not that I’m afraid of being close to people. I have friends that I might as well be dating, were it not for the lack of sexual tension.
When I had actual sex for the first time, I was sorely disappointed, as well as many other times after that. I wasn’t open enough to tell my partner what my needs were, and succumbed to “wham bam, thank you ma’am” and left sexually frustrated when my partner was satisfied. Masturbation was my sexual release, for a LONG time (lets talk years now) and almost thought something was wrong with me and I could only orgasm through masturbation. Nope, I just needed to tell the boneheads that I needed my buttons pushed too, and how. However, I always appreciated the partner who didn’t need instructions.
Being open to my own sexual desires was a huge barrier, I almost felt like I was supposed to please him, and it was my job to please me, since I didn’t get off on the 3 minutes of humping, it was somehow my fault.
I found that I have an insatiable sex drive. I can stay up longer then I can stay awake and often will not lose hardness after cumming no mater how many times I do cum. The more I have sex the more I want to and the easier it is for me to keep going. It is to the point that I am actually worried that I may have a chemical imbalance or problem. Side note, I am able to control my sexual urges I just am worried about my amount of stamina. I mean having sex for 6 hours, getting off 5 times, and still being ready to rock like it was a warm up isn’t natural right? Does this mean I am a Nympho?
Well…I think that my current problem is my consistent interest in sex. I lost my virginity to a boy whom I was extremely intoxicated with. We’d dated for 5 months and he was my first everything. Then… Sex was the best thing, so we did it a lot. 6 days after we broke up (four months after the virginity loss) I started dating his best friend, and two weeks after that he lost his virginity to me. I suppose it is an addiction. Now I’m 18, and I’ve had sex with one other boy since, but for the past year and a half, I’ve avoided guys because I’m actually afraid I’ll rush into sex too early with them.
I have only had sex with one person. We had sex several times and each time we did it, sex really hurt. I could hardly ever get over the pain and reach climax.
And since we have broken up, I now worry about STDs.
My big, deep, dark scary problem in high school (which lasted through college as well) was that I wasn’t attracted to ANYONE. I wasn’t attracted to guys OR girls. I never thought any guys were cute. I never wanted to have physical contact with anyone. I wasn’t even homosexual! I mean, at least the homosexuals have a team, even if it had to be a secret one at my high school! It made me feel profoundly alien and flawed and ten years later I am still chipping away at the deep self-loathing I developed for myself because I wasn’t “normal.” I was masturbated by someone else in college before I even knew what it was. And once discovered, it wasn’t something that I had much interest in doing, and when I did, the results were profoundly unspectacular. I was able to fall in love, but not feel desire, and that really, really made me feel like a terrible, broken person. I have since experienced desire and antidepressants seem to be helpful for both the drive and my experience of it, but I still harbor fears that I will wash up alone and remote, done in by my body’s perverse asexuality because I will only be attracted to precisely three people out the billions in the world, and chances are that I will never run into them. I suppose before I wash up I should get my testosterone checked. But I cannot overemphasize how badly this has scarred me.
Being a teen, body image is a major problem. It’s not that I think I’m fat or anything, I know I’m healthy. But my breasts are rather large. I’m almost a DD and with family genes, I’m going to get much bigger (Mom is an H). It gets annoying to know guys hit on my because of my impressive bust and not all the brains in my head. It also gets tiring when I get treated like crap by other girls because my boobs are bigger and they get insecure. I’d give anything to be a nice C or D and people act like I should be singing praises to be so well endowed.
My biggest high school problem was the inability to get an erection from foreplay alone. I would usually require at least some oral sex to become excited, and very few of my partners understood that. Second is perceived premature ejaculation; I have come to realize that the problem was not physical but all mental. My personal expectations far outweighed what was possible let alone realistic. I suppose that every man wants to last and last inside a woman, and so few actually do.
I’ve got a few. First, like many people who have already replied, body image issues. I still can’t get over it. Also, I came out of the closet as gay earlier than most people, so dating was difficult, and did not happen often.
I would say that my biggest sexual problem is body image. I am very overweight, and this has caused me so much stress. My boyfriend has never said or done anything that would make me feel this way, but i still am scared that he might be grossed out.
I have begun to overcome this, especially during the act itself. I mainly feel this way right when the shirts and pants come off.
Also, pregnancy was a big scare for me. (STDs were negligible to me, because we were both each other’s firsts.) As it is, we use both condoms and oral contraceptives for me. using 2 methods of birth control really helped me to relax.
So yeah. my 2 biggest issues: body image, and safety.
Men don’t always fulfill the stereotypes. As a woman, that has been my biggest problem.
We’re taught our whole lives that men always want sex, can get hard easily, want you to give them orgasms, and struggle to last as long as possible in bed. Your hand or your mouth or your pussy, girl - those things will magically make him cum.
I thought I was the kind of person who rejected stereotypes, and welcomed the people around me to defy them. I thought I especially *wanted* boys to defy stereotypes like these, to not be sex-obsessed. I was wrong. I have trouble dealing with it when guys minds and bodies don’t work like I thought. It isn’t fair of me to expect the men in my life to be like the caricatures on a beer commercial.
So when a guy isn’t in the mood, I find myself uncomfortable that he isn’t filling the role I unconsciously expected him to fill. When we start, and I’m working away down there, doing my best…and he eventually has to say “I’m sorry baby, I don’t think it’s gonna happen tonight” - that hurts.
Those times are rare, and perhaps unique to my situation. I’m dating an athlete who works out very hard, and often is dehydrated, which takes a toll on his body. Now that he is in the off-season, I no longer have problems getting him hard or getting him off.
But to give my first BJ ever, and eventually need to let him finish himself off, because neither my mouth nor my hand could do the trick? That was difficult, and a good learning experience.
I think my biggest problem is sexual harassment and sexual assault. The first time it happened was when a female counselor took me to a back room and made advances at Boy Scout camp. I didn’t want it to happen, but I didn’t know how to say no.
Later, I had a girlfriend. Even though she is younger than me, she is a lot more sexually experienced. There were times when she made me touch her, but the worst was when she touched my genitals while we were watching a movie at the theater. I felt paralyzed and I remmember nothing of the movie.
Sometimes sex sucks. It should be with people who are consenting, not just not saying anything and it should be with people who care about each other.
My biggest problem is that I have flashbacks and anxiety problems due to the fact that my first sexual encounter turned into rape and a beating. Ever since then I tense up suddenly during sexual encounters, or “leave” as my boyfriend and I call it - I zone out and end up reliving the experience. Getting over it is slow and painful, but luckily I have a fantastic, loving, respectful partner.
My biggest sex problem as a teen?
Well, in middle school I stumbled upon my dad’s porn collection, and for the next fours years I battled an addiction to bondage porn. Its tittilating! It’s dirty! It turns me on! I feel like a whore! …etc
I am beyond this now, but at the time it made me feel like the dirtiest thing there was. Now I laugh about it.
Love the show! Keep up the great work!
When I was a teen, I worried a lot about there being a ‘right’ way and a ‘wrong’ way to have sex. I was very self-conscious and worried a lot about the little details: should I move my hips like this or like that? What do I do with my hands? Do I look my partner in the eye? Should I moan? If I’m on top, do I sit up straight or lean in over my partner? And if my partner is penetrating me, does it have to be an in-out motion? Can we do ‘foreplay’ things during intercourse? etc, etc.
It was difficult for me when the answer to all those questions would inevitably be ‘whatever feels good to you.’ I worried too much about weather I was doing it right to be able to enjoy myself at all. None of my partners told me very much about what they enjoyed, either.
The other thing that was a problem for me was partners who only cared about my pleasure and orgasm inasmuch as it reflected on their own pride. Had one who wanted me to come only so he could feel like he had great prowess in bed, and another who felt too threatened by vibrators to want us to use one together, even though it helped me.
Actually, I would love to see an episode about vibrators and other sex toys and how to use them with partners.
I think my biggest problem as a teen (and still somewhat now, though less so) was the fear that I would orgasm too soon, and/or not be able to please my partner. Getting better at oral sex after having dated women who were actually helpful and comfortable saying what felt good made me feel a lot better about this. Also I find that worrying about orgasming too soon generally is the most likely thing to cause it to happen. Most people are ok with it happening, some are actually flattered as long as you dont roll over and go to sleep immediately afterwards.
I also wanted to second what “em” said about vibrators. I have a decent collection myself and find that many women enjoy to use them during sex. They are not Only for foreplay or masturbation. They are great sex aids. From talking to male friends and to women who are dating other men I get the sense that many men feel threatened by a partner who wants to use vibes in bed (the “what my penis isnt good enough?” attitude). Sadly many women also assume that men will react this way and dont even pursue it.
A show/episode on sex toys being OK/Good to use during sex would be awesome (and I dont just mean things like vibrating cock rings that are made for during sex).
Ok this is actually a story about a friend (not me at all) (and my friend isn’t me pretending to know someone else its truely a friend)
She had a boyfriend who was really into porn like really into porn… he wanted her to “squirt” he would get really annoyed that he couldn’t get her off and make her “squirt”
My Friend confided in me and asked me how to squirt I laughed and said last time I checked squirting is as fake as the easter bunny.
It involves using water put into the vagina and then pushing it out OR weeweeing.
I’m like thinking I’m 99.8% correct but correct me if I’m wrong.
Is Squirting real or a myth like unicorns?
@Red Squirting (female ejaculation) is real. Some girls do it and others don’t. A woman who does not squirt cannot be forced to do so. Some girls don’t know that they can until it happens. Still, I doubt it would put me in the mood to have some asshat poking around and yelling at me to hose him.
One of my biggest problems is arousal. I’m still a virgin, and only recently started kissing my girlfriend. My problem is that I get aroused easily, or at least I believe it do. Just holding hands with my girlfriend makes me excited and kissing her even more so.
While this isn’t as big a problem as it was when we first started holding hands it still embarrasses me greatly to worry about the fact that I have an erection when she’s leaning against my shoulder. And when we hug or when she shifts to lean closer I worry about her feeling or seeing my erection a(as in the bulge in my pants).
My biggest sexual problem as a teen is that I’m worried about being silent during sex. Unlike moaners and screamers, I make almost no sounds during sex, and I’m worried that my partner may think they aren’t doing a good job or pleasuring me because I don’t make noises. When I first had sex, I didn’t make any sound until I orgasmed, and even then I only made quiet moans. After the first time I told my boyfriend of the time (even though I was embarrased) that it was great and I loved it. He asked me why I would say that (I’m usually not one to point out the obvious) and I said it was becasue I was silent. Even though he thought that was perfectly fine, I still worry about it a lot.
My biggest problem as a teen was finding my dad’s porn collection. I became obsessed with it and tricked myself into believing that the sex i was watching was the way sex is supposed to happen. I also ruined myself for women as the girls in high school don’t look like porn stars, well most of them. So i was yearning for imaginary sex from women who didn’t exist. It took me a while but i was able to pull myself out of that state of mind but it meant that i went to the very end of my teens before losing my virginity.
My problem is not being able to orgasm. I didn’t really know what masturbation was until 10th grade and I never experimented with it at all. When I (sort of) started experimenting with it, I had sensations but nothing ever happened. So I asked my friends what it felt like and they said,”you’ll know” but I feel like I still don’t know. And even now, during sex I don’t know if I orgasm and can’t truly tell my bf if I have or not because I don’t know. :/
My biggest problem as a teen was that after my first year of college I was home for the summer and, on the topic of sexuality, my mother told me everything about her and my father’s sex-life, and it was traumatizing. . .
Just kidding. Well, not about the hearing of my parent’s sex-life, that really happened, but it wasn’t completely traumatizing.
My biggest sex problem as a teen, and still is one in my early twenties, is that I am somewhat a hopeless romantic. I want to find the right person before having sex and have this romantic ideal in my head that is similar to the movies, but the fact it’s an ideal means it’s never going to happen. I’ve gotten better and adapted the ideal to real life scenarios and drawn some reality perspective into my romantic outlook, but I’m still a romantic at heart . . . which sucks sometimes.
For me it´s like I don´t have the need like all other boys to have sex. It´s really hard for me to get horny when I´m about to have sex with a girl, that´s why all the chemistry goes away and the girl gives up and goes away. It has happen to me a couple of times. My fear is that I´m actually afraid of getting something started with a girl because I fear that one day she would just leave me because of obvious reason she would want to have sex. But I don´t know if I´m up to it, to have sex. It sucks!
So all thought Hs i only had 2 boy friends one for 6mos which was sophomore yr and which my mom referred to as a “training” boy friend. and a second which was for almost 2 years..the only problem was he went so0o0o slow….it took forever before we even started fooling around..i wanted to have sex but i don’t think he had enough self confidence so time went on and as most normal Hs relationships do we broke up. so flash back to present i came home from college and started talking to him again turns out he lost his virginity like 6 mos. later..WTF my only thought was am i not good enough? ive talked to him about it and he still assures me that he just wansnt the confident around me..
Nikol, my biggest sexual problem is my breasts. I’ve always been self-conscious of them since I was in the 5th grade, where, literally, I woke up with 36 C cup and all the guys had to call me “ThunderBoobs” since I was the only girl with any. Because of that, I’m really nervous about my breasts, which are still the same size, and almost small compared to most girls around where I live. I’ve only shown my breasts to 1 out of 14 boyfriends, and it took him three months into the relationship to coax me out of my bra. No one’s been that lucky since. I’m just nervous about what other people will say, as the areolas are larger and as they grew so fast, they have plenty of stretch marks. I just don’t feel pretty with them, and I guess that’s just something hat I’ll have to try to get over before I actually get married and have sex. I just wish it wer easier.
I think my biggest problem with sex would be a mix between not being able to get close to people and self-control. I don’t mean like I’m completely obsessed with sex or anything, but there’s this one girl who I can’t stop having sex with. I know that it sounds like I’m crazy for wanting to STOP having sex (haha =P) but it’s true. Like… I would definitely like to be in a relationship (not with the aforementioned girl, we don’t have feelings for each otehr, but maybe someone else) but I won’t make the steps to get close to anyone, or even to hang out with potential girlfriends.
My biggest sexual problem, hm. Probably not being able to orgasm, which makes me very insecure about my sexuality. I’ve never been able to sexually fantasize either, nor have I ever had a crush on anyone despite being close to 18 years old. I’m hoping that everything will change once I’m ready to have sex. A big part of me doubts that that day will ever come because I’ve never desired anyone. I can’t even imagine myself holding hands or kissing and it’s sort of scary.
My second fear… body image, but not in the way most people have stated above. I’m a very small person and I’m worried that I might be too small for any man, and thus sex would be even more painful for me.
I think my biggest problem was never being able to have an orgasm….. so i ended up faking it so my boyfriend wouldn’t feel inadiquite.
I suppose my biggest sexual problem was… not having sex. Except to be honest I never found it to be a problem, since I really wasn’t ready to do it until I was 18. I’d say people make too big a deal out of both having and not having sex. The right time to do it is when you want to and are comfortable with it. I guess really my problem then was intimacy issues. I was just as horny as the next teenager, but if I ever got even remotely close to sex with someone (this includes all the various permutations thereof) I’d get extremely uncomfortable, tense and even nauseated. It took me a while to get over that.
As for more mundane, physical problems… I suppose you could kind of count the two years I was sexually active at 18 and 19, in which case my biggest problem was the fact that I have an extremely small, non-stretchy vaginal passage. Initial penetration was, the first few months, pretty painful, even with lube (as were, for that matter, those awful tongs when you go to get a pelvic exam) and I had lots of issues with various infections because of all the “trauma” that was going on down there. Luckily that all eventually went away, but I do still have issues with some initial pain, and actually I often have problems with the guys I’m with reaching orgasm really quickly because my body squeezes them so hard. Luckily my current boyfriend is able to keep going for a second round. ^_-
I guess my biggest problem was body image. I have always been a plump girl…but now I have come to terms with it. Who wants to screw a stick and worry about breaking it? Especially when there are whips and chains involved.
I feel as if I have many problems, on different days. Not so much body image issues as I used to have. Ive become more comfotable with myself over the past year. Ive been having sex for about a year and a couple months and I just hit the 9th person i’ve had sex with….sometimes I think about that and it bothers me. I dont consider myself very promiscous (spelling?) And a couple of those people have been a one night thing. In most of my seuxal relationships with people it seems as if I am never truly happy or myself during whatever we are doing. Its eaither im just pleasing him b/c its something I feel like I have to do, not want to, or I feel weird when were having sex….like it really isnt happening. I also have a really really really hard time having a orgasm from sex. I have maybe had one during sex, but with alot of foreplay inbetween. I just recently….say in the past 6 months have learned what an orgasm for me really is. So im not confused if im having one or not…I just cant seem to finally get there. And sometimes sex is really unpleasent. Painful, kinda…like the really annoying kind of pain that isnt too bad to stop, but it keeps me from enjoying it. Ive been with this guy for the past 5 months and he has really helped me learn to let myself enjoy sex. But ive realized I need/want more out of sex. And I have a HUGE problem sometimes with trying to explain what I nee.d. I feel like im selfish when I want something done to me….
So yea, there’s some of the issues I’ve battled with in my head over the past year or so
hi, uhhh the first time i had sex. and i put it in her….like i didnt really feel much of anything =\. i actually said to my self… “this is nothing like masturbating” hahaha but i kept going for her sake, she thaught it was amazing…and i was like “well im glad someone enjoyed it” ( of course i didnt say that out loud.)
but yea so far thats was my thing.
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sorry to re comment.
But it seems that most of the women have trouble with reaching their climax to orgasm, or arent wanting to have sex.
for me, idk im 18…and when i just recently had my first time, when it was over it wasnt as exciting as i thaught it would be.
prolly cua i jacked off that day so it took me longer to climax so i went longer.
so for u girls that r having sex, and cant climax…relax its in your head. and u dont always have to be emotioinally attached to that person. just trusting friends. thats how im doing it and its working out pretty well so far.
and another thing before u and ur man have sex… have him blow a load off before u and him get going he should last twice as long. which is always good for u. and dont feel bad about wanting pleasure; tell you man “yo i like it like this.” honestly we really dont care as long as were getting it. we like being told what to do sometimes and we want u to enjoy it too. plus if we know how u like it than u wont have to tell us again.
Nikol, i think it would be a good idea to have one about how to pleasure your women or girl friend. it seem like the majority r not satisfied with their man. we should get our self into non selfish shape.
anyways, have a good day.
My biggest problem when I was a teen…
I wanted to have sex, but was far too shy to actually do it…
two crazy stories: and i need answers!
my friend recently started having this problem. she started seeing a new guy and everytime he fingered her, she would like bleed and get her period. its really weird. Like she had her period. then like a week later, he fingered her and she started bleeding. then the next day she had her period again. then a coule weeks later, he fingered her againn and then like the next day she had her period again.
uhh is there some kinda of explaination? cuz its so bizzar
secondly, my biggest sex problem: body image. I am always nervous about what i look like down there, so i never let my bf look while we are having sex. If i see his eyes wandering i yell “stop! dont look”. its kinda silly and i know sex would be so much better if i was more comfortable with my body.
thanks! and answer please!
Probably being raped and nobody believing me.
That and being a dyke and not having any girls to do stuff with. After I broke up with the only other one in town. haha.